Uninvited touching AIBU

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I have a family member who whenever they hug me will fondle my rib cage/stomach/shoulder/stroke my cheek if I look like I am asleep on the sofa. I don’t know whether I am being unreasonable but it makes me feel uncomfortable, especially as we don’t really get on and have widely different views on absolutely everything. But maybe I have issues with people touching me, I’ve never been a hugger.

Slap her hand away and say “sorry, that’s a reflex to unwanted touching”

I’d personally hate it but based on what you’ve said I think it’s a sort of ‘generational’ mismatch in ways of showing affection, and I’d probably try to regard it just as her way of being loving.

New behaviour, the first thing that occurred to me about it was that she had sought advice from someone at her church on how to deal with her son’s partner who she doesn’t get on very well with.

Her church seem to give her odd advice as I heard some on loudspeaker during lockdown. One example was that to ensure her sons didn’t go to hell (from being atheists) she should have hit them as children to ensure her authority.