Tell me to stop worrying about my son

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He's 25, still lives at home with us & has recently joined the military. He's home for the bank holiday & going back tomorrow night. He went down the village pub at 415pm this afternoon with his mates & still hasn't come back. I know its not that late, but 8 hours later I still can't help worrying! Is this normal for a mum to be like this, he's 25 for gods sake! I never used to worry if he went out at 9ish & came home 4ish, so why am i worrying now? Why have I got a gut feeling something is wrong? I have been tempted to text him but that would make him look stupid.
I just hope he's not too wasted to drive back tomorrow night.
I know he's a fully grown man but I can't help it. I think I prefer it when he's away now, I worry less then.

Argh, I get the worrying about adult DCs but it’s really not that late. Just phone him. Say you want to lock the door and you’re checking he’s got his keys. Then go to bed. He’ll just be having fun.

Aw op we're mums we worry .. same as you my DS same age went out at 12 today to pub with friends to watch a match and hasn't come back yet .. I did check to see if he'd been online on WhatsApp and he had not long ago so I'll leave it at that..we'll always worry

@pippapipps that makes me feel better I think, a good 12 hours out. He's normally sensible & wouldn't do anything to jeopardise his new military life - I hope!

He'll be fine op, he's probably having a good time with his friends or maybe even be with a young woman he's met. Just relax and all will be ok.
Remember, when he's at camp, you're not going to know where he is or who with are you.
That said, mum's will never stop worrying about their kids, however old they are.

@Findyourneutralspace I have been tempted to contact him, but I'd cramp his style if he's pulled 😅 I was married with a mortgage at his age so I need to let go of the apron strings

He’s 25 and in the military. He can survive a few drinks with his mates.