Does anyone want friends but on their own terms?

[Spinelli99]

I had a friend who I lost contact with almost 3 years ago. It was toxic, but I mainly found it very suffocating as she wanted to meet up virtually daily, and message constantly.
I'd end up making excuses as to why I couldn't meet up, there was also pressure to spend money I didn't have.
I had a similar experience with a different friend, however this was only when she'd broken up with her partner. There was one week where she also wanted to meet me every day.
We're full-time working adults in our 30s, we aren't 18 year old students.
I found these situations so suffocating.
Conversely, I seem to have a couple of other 'friends' who couldn't care less, I'm lucky if I see them twice a year, despite being local, I can barely class them as friends at this point.
Something in between the two would be better. I don't have a huge income and I am also teetotal which unfortunately puts some adults off (which I find quite sad)
How often do you see your friends? What's your ideal?

I spend time doing things with friends, rather than seeing friends, if you see the difference ?

So - 'How often do I arrange to meet a friend for a drink or a meal?' - It depends on the friend. Some I will go out with once or twice a year, others perhaps once every couple of months.
How often am I out of the house, doing things I enjoy, at which I will also see friends? - Lots. Weekly for 2 or 3 things. Perhaps fortnightly or monthly for others.

So, I'm not sitting in every evening. I belong to things and I do things (like go to the theatre or to a gig or to a sporting event or a meeting of where I volunteer or a rehearsal) - different people on different days though.

I don't even spend the evening with my dh 3 or 4 nights in a row. I'd find it quite strange to see a friend night after night after night.