To be starting to struggle with DP this weekend.

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We’re away for the weekend . Yes the weather is a bit crap - but we can’t change it. He’s been grumpy all weekend . It now around 2 30 in the afternoon and he’s gone back to bed - ffs. We were meant to be going out and doing something . He’s not hungover or anything. He gets ibs - I sympathise because so do I . One of his triggers is pastry - so I’m struggling with why he’d eat bloody pastry twice on Friday then moan all day yesterday about his ibs. I feel fit to burst . Bring on the wine

YANBU. Could you go out without him? Staying in and watching him moan plays into his hands.

Does he have form for ruining weekends away / days out?

Just leave him behind and go and do something on your own.

I know it's not what you planned but don't let him ruin your weekend too.

Thanks - I may well do.

He can ruin his own weekend but he shouldn't ruin yours! I'd definitely go out alone.

If this a one-off/out of character and I'd just put it down to him being off colour and leave him to it.

If he's regularly ruining your experiences then review the relationship.

Either way enjoy the rest of your weekend away.

I’ve had a shit holiday too, so solidarity from me. Sometimes there is so much expectation that comes with a holiday that if things don’t go to plan it can be a real disappointment.

I think being allowed to do your own thing on holiday is ok too.
I'm more for going out and doing stuff, DH likes to relax. We try and accommodate each, and don't always have to be together.
Not sure about the grumpiness though- sorry.

Leave him to it op. Go enjoy your holiday. He cares not a jot about you ime. Time to revaluate your future.
A better one lies ahead if you ltb.

He sounds a bit selfish. Take yourself off somewhere and leave him to it.

Is this is his usual behaviour? If he’s actually properly ill with a bug or something, obviously he can’t do much about that, but if he’s just being grumpy then he can fuck off. If there’s one thing that really annoys me, it’s people who actively make a bad situation worse, rather than making the best of it.

If the weather’s shit on holiday, then yes, that’s annoying, but you make the best of it and find something to do indoors or go for a drive somewhere and have a laugh. And, as you say, if you know something triggers your IBS you don’t bloody eat it on a weekend away! I have IBS and it’s annoying but I’d never risk eating something that might trigger it knowing I had a nice weekend planned.

And, as you say, if you know something triggers your IBS you don’t bloody eat it on a weekend away! I have IBS and it’s annoying but I’d never risk eating something that might trigger it knowing I had a nice weekend planned.

Absolutely this! You take/buy/order 'safe' foods, and don't take any risks. Why sabotage a weekend? Odd.

My dh decided last week he would rather scroll through his phone than come out for a couple of hours last week whilst on holiday. Left him to it and switched my phone off so he couldn't call me.
Ugh men are worse than kids sometimes.

I’d get the do your own thing but if we were away for a fortnight -but it’s three days

10HailMarys
Just grumpy