To stop DC from seeing a Grandparent

[redambergreen70]

My (young) DS has come out with racist comments on a few occasions, saying one of their Grandparents has told them.
We have spoken to DS and explained that what they are saying is wrong and we should respect everyone despite of their race, gender, sexuality, etc.
We had spoken to said Grandparent a couple of weeks ago and explained that it’s wrong and they were sorry.
Following another ‘Grandparent told me this…’ comment this morning, I’ve had enough and now considering stopping contact with that grandparent. They are otherwise loving and great with DC but I absolutely will not stand for that!!!

It's hard to say without an example, tbh.

My initial thought was "ooof, yeah, my kids wouldn't be alone with them anymore" but we really need some context here.

I don’t feel comfortable sharing the exact comments to be honest but they are around ‘too many people of a certain race being in our country’ amongst others

No - final warning for the parent and then stop u supervised contact if it happens again

You’ll likely get people saying it’s ‘just their generation’ and making excuses. Personally I think it’s a valid reason to stop contact or at least reduce it massively.

We used to tell them to stop every single time they did it, then we reduced contact. As our kids got older they would point it out themselves which their grandparents were shocked at. Now we rarely see them at all. They have other unpleasant views too and out kids don’t like them at all.

See, I've seen this as a nanny. Exact same scenario but what the Grandmother ACTUALLY said was "when I was at school, there were no Chinese, or Indian or Black children at all."

Unfortunately when the parents probed the kids on it, they (the parents) chose to hear it as something completely different.

I'm not saying this is the case in your situation, but it's worth considering.

Also, I wouldn't stop contact but I would certainly not be leaving the kids alone with them.

How young is your child ?
I wouldn't stand for that kind of talk either.

I had to do a similar thing with FIL. But I told MIL that DS was in trouble at school for repeating this stuff in class (not strictly true - but it was a likely scenario) and she sorted it out straightaway.

Can you achieve the result you want - grandparent keeping their gob shut - without actually resorting to no contact?

Imagine your dc repeating that at school.... One of dc 8's friends said something quite innocent imo but was marched to the Head and dps called.... Don't let that be you op.