Hate being home

[Barbiefan]

I realise I have issues. Is there anyone like this?
I cannot stand spending time at home. I have lovely DC and DH but like to spend as much time as possible out with my family. I’d literally rather do anything rather than spend time at home (with my family though not on my own).
Im not a great fan of where we live but do have friends nearby but the place we live is dull and pay a fortune in rent for the pleasure of this. We have outgrown our house a bit too
I have Anxiety and was abused as a child which may be related.

how can I feel differently about this?

Hopefully this isn’t just me!

Sorry you didn't get any answers to your post. I enjoy being at home as well as being out. Love coming home after a long day out. Is there anything in particular that you don't like about being at home?

I'm exactly the same, I get instantly grumpy if I'm home for more than a few hours in the day. Drives my partner mad as he loves been at home. I didn't have a very nice childhood and used to dread being at home in the holidays due to the atmosphere etc so not sure if that has anything to do with it? It makes me feel very depressed although I can manage longer at home on my own than I can with everyone else at home.

There’s nothing in particular. If I know I’m going to be in like today I feel depressed and worry about it and then hate being at home. I’d like to change it as I’m driving my DH mad and we are spending more money than we should on doing activities away from home

My husband can be like this. We balance it with one weekend day and one weekend day in, we compromise but he really doesn't like relaxing at home (he's better since lockdowns as he had too though!!)

What would make your time at home nicer? I find having a space I love makes me feel calm: nice smells, cosy throws to snuggle under, nice candles etc. I think being in control of your environment makes it feel like yours. Is there anything you could change to make it feel more you?

I wouldn’t go as far as this, I like my home, but I can somewhat relate.

I need to be busy and have stuff to do all the time and I find vegging out (unless I’m really super tired) unbelievably stressful and frustrating. The prospect of a whole day in front of the tv for example makes me feel unbearably agitated and I couldn’t do it.

I can’t just have a day at home without something to do, even if it’s just a little walk or trip to the shops, without feeling incredibly anxious.

I was brought up to think doing nothing (such as watching tv) was a real waste and a sign of really poor character and low intelligence although rationally I know it’s a bit extreme it makes me feel appalling guilt. I have to invent chores etc.

TBH even though I know it’s weird and abnormal I judge people who can go through life doing very little to relax. Too old to shake it off now too.

was abused as a child which may be related

Absolutely related. Home is not something you associate with comfort, security and happiness. That's why you don't want to be there.