Name changed for this but long time mumsnetter. Today I was seeing my best friend for the first time in months- she lives a long way away so we don't see each other very often and I was really looking forward to this. My partner knew this (we don't live together and both have kids separately). At the time I was supposed to meet her I got a call from my partner that his child had had an accident (not serious or life threatening just a normal kind of childhood injury) he was working (self employed and had his child with him). I feel like he wanted me to drop my plans and go and help out, I said something like 'oh no I hope you manage to sort it out, poor (child's name).' Then I got more calls which I missed as I was busy with my friend. Am I the arsehole for not wanting to drop my plans and sort out a parenting drama for his child? I've text him since I got back to check if it's ok and he hasn't replied and I think he might be pissed off but obviously that could be me feeling guilt because subconsciously I think I should have helped him. I often have parenting dramas but I might moan about them to him a bit but I never expect help, just some time and space to sort it out myself as I've been a single parent for a long time. He might turn up with flowers/wine etc to make me feel better but it's never asked for or expected.