To ask how long before you got back with your ex?

[BonnieTJ]

Just going through a difficult time after a break up. I’m numb and upset, hopeful for the future and working through it.

I had a very amicable break.

I don’t know if getting back together is ever on the cards. I don’t really want to think about it to be honest but it made me think, how long did it take for others to get back together? Does it ever even work?

I've never got back with an ex.

They're an ex for a reason xx

Exes are exes for a reason the problems that were there the first time usually surface again

8 years. We were together from 16-19, split up and each had a DC etc, found ourselves single again and reconnected. We've been together 8 years now and are married with another DC.

My mum and step dad have a similar story too.

People are quick to say never go back, but sometimes it's just not the right time.

2.5 years after he broke up with me. He did all the work to get back together, and hasn’t stopped working since. We’re married now and been together 17 years. It was very, very different second time around.

Stayed in contact for 3 years, coparented very closely, occasionally had sex so never really broke up. Tried again during lockdown, absolute disaster!

They are an ex for a reason

Never. Ex for a reason...

Been split with my ex for 6 years, he recently confessed to still having feelings for me but it’s been a bit too long for me!

I've gotten back with two ex's in the past, never ends well

I don't think I know anyone who ever got back with an ex...

I got back with 2 ex's as I'm an utter twat. Both were completely wrong decisions. Ended awfully.

Infinity. Never.

No, it's like eating out of the bin

The only people I know who have successfully rekindled relationships are those who originally broke up for practical reasons, relocating for University, travelling, gap years etc and then made contact again when back in the same location. Anyone who broke up for emotional reasons or similar and got back together just ended up with a lot of heart ache.

I have never got back with an ex. They are an ex for a reason.

This ^ with bells on !

I'm with the majority of PPs, exes are ex for a reason.

If you separate briefly and neither of you starts a new relationship with someone else, then I think you can rekindle things (assuming whatever issues are resolved). But I don't think I'd count that as an ex

Therapy for you would be a better use of your headspace and time. Don't desperately chase an ex. Move on.

Was coming to say the same. The only couple I personally know who made it work did so after splitting at Uni. Also the ex being your first love and meeting young helps.

One you’re a few relationships down the line it probably wasn’t right in the first place.

It depends on the circumstances. My friend got back with her ex husband after 7 years. They had divorced and both had a child with another partner during that period.
They are very happy together.

5 years and we got remarried.

DH and I had a brief kiss at 16, and there was some angst about whether we would 'thin out friendship' 😁. I'm pleased it didn't go anywhere then, we were too young for it to have lasted. We got together properly at 25. Still together 13 years later.

I believe in the past me, as well as where I'm going. I'd never go back.