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Holiday

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C2190 · 25/08/2023 21:48

My partner wants to book a weeks holiday abroad next year. We have a son, and he will be 2 years old. My mum and sister in law have offered to take our son for the week so we can go and have some chill time, but aibu to feel like I don't want to leave him for the week or should I just go and have fun? We considered taking him with us but personally I think with the heat etc it would be a bit much for him as he would only be 2 and I would be worried that he wouldn't enjoy it as much. I have spoke to my parter about this and he's absolutely fine with holding off until our son is a bit older and we can all go a holiday together but I feel bad as my parter and I haven't been abroad together yet and I do feel like having some us time would do the world of good for us but I also feel a bit selfish.

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Peskytooth · 25/08/2023 22:52

I’ve just taken my 2yo abroad to a hot country. We did an all inclusive hotel with kids pools and play areas. She absolutely loved it! Normally she goes to bed at 7 and has a short nap but on holiday the excitement of the pool and the heat meant that she had 2 long naps during the day ans stayed up at night for the kid’s entertainment. Just go somewhere family friendly and don’t book stupidly long flights or late flights.

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 25/08/2023 22:56

I took my just turned 1yr old to a hot country, for 10 weeks, on my own, a v long flight with a change over away.

It can be done, but if you don't want to, then don't.

Adelaff · 25/08/2023 23:01

I wouldn't have gone on a holiday abroad without my 2 year old, but I prefer UK holidays and they're easier to manage with little ones. If I had supportive parents/in-laws who I trusted to mind my child while I was away and my child was ok with being left (which mine absolutely wasn't), I would take a short break, parents only. Probably not a full week, but a long weekend for sure.

If your DC has a good relationship with grandparents and you want to go, then you should go. It sounds like you want to.

Globules · 26/08/2023 09:17

We took our children abroad from 6 months onwards.

We took holidays without our children from 9 months onwards.

Both are wonderful. Both are good for you as a couple. Both are good for your children.

Decide what you would like to do and do it, guilt free.

Iwantmyoldnameback · 26/08/2023 10:06

awfullytricky · 25/08/2023 22:38

You cannot put a price on some couple time when you have young children.. ! Having a child is like a hand-grenade going off in a relationship.,ALL the relationships I know of (I'm 61 now) that worked long term were between people who nurtured their relationship as partners ..

Do it. Your child will be safe, loved and looked after and will never remember anyway !! Win win

Now I've found the opposite, the only marriage I know that broke up was the one who was always offloading her children on her parents. We always thought he found it easier to leave as they weren't a properly bonded family.
There aren't many years to enjoy your children, take the two year old and have a wonderful time or leave him with your parents but both will disrupt his routine.

Toddler101 · 26/08/2023 10:24

I'm taking my 2yo and 4m old to Menorca next month. It's not the height of summer and the resort is family friendly with creche/kids club. There are lots of resorts that fit the bill! This is my first time on a resort holiday so not sure how I feel about it as it's not my usual holiday MO, but it's a family holiday for all of us. I couldn't leave my toddler (or baby) behind!

You could all go on a family holiday to a place like this, book the little one in to the onsite crèche/kids club for a day or more so you still get 1:1 time with your partner as well as toddler having fun, a holiday with you and some family time too. Cruises have similar options too!

We've also done Air BnB UK holidays and hotel stays with 1 and 2 babies.

Go on the holiday with your family

wonkylegs · 26/08/2023 10:28

Both our kids went away when they were under 2 (on hot and cold holidays) they were absolutely fine and loved them.
Packing & organisation was a bit stressful but fine once away & tbf that would be the same if you went without them.
Glad we did it with DS2 as otherwise due to the pandemic he wouldn't have had the experience until much later in life.

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C2190 · 27/08/2023 09:47

Thank you all for the advice. I've spoken to my partner, and we're going to take him somewhere in the UK for the week, Alton Towers has cbeebies land, and my partner loves roller coaster rides, so win win! Then my partner and I are going for a short break abroad somewhere near the end of the year so everyone is happy 😊

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mammaCh · 16/02/2024 11:08

My kids started going on holidays abroad when they were 6months and loved it.
At 2 years old all 3 of them had the most wonderful time and totally made the holidays wayyy more fun than if we had left them behind.
A week is a long time to be away from parents. I left them for 6 days once, for a work trip, and it was too long for all of us.

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