Following the recent passing of the man who I believed to be my father, I discovered some documents that threw everything into doubt.
I found the documents from my birth that were in my mother's first husbands name.
I have a copy of my birth certificate, (although not an original copy) which I obtained in my early 20's in.order to apply for a passport. The man who I have known to be my father is named on that document.
I discussed my findings with a family member who found out via the registry office that my birth was originally registered in my mother's maiden name. It was then changed to my mother's former husband's name, and subsequently changed to my father's name. I don't have the dates that these changes took place and cannot get any original copies as the latter copy supercedes all previous certificates.
It also came to.light that my mother was still married to her former husband when my younger brother was born. We were always led to believe that she was married to my 'father' at that point.
I have not contact with my mother in a number of years due to the horrendous physical abuse that I was subjected to as a child, which eventually led to me going into care.
I feel that I need to confront my mother about what I know. She is now elderly and very frail. I know that meeting with her and discussing the matter is not going to happen. Would I be unreasonable to send her a letter with my findings? I also wonder if the reason for her behaviour towards ne is because of what she may have been hiding.
As my father has been cremated, a DNA test from him is not possible. I know that my brother would agree to it, but I'm not sure that I'm truly.prepared for the results.
Perhaps I'm just wanting the confrontation with my mother, and to see how she is going to explain why I was registered 3 times.