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To think people actually look for things to be offended about nowadays

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Butterflyfluff · 25/08/2023 20:38

Just reading threads on here lately - some people seem to just look for things to argue with their partner / other posters on here etc.

What happened to live and let live?

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WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 25/08/2023 22:48

100% agree @Butterflyfluff

I am sick to death of the perpetually offended now, and having to take your words out of your mouth and look at them before you say them, and the social justice warriors telling everyone what they can and can't say.

I am also sick of people being offended on behalf of others, and the terminology police. It all fucks me right off and I'm bored with it. I think the tide is turning though, and a lot of people are sick of it and bored with it now. Tired of being told off for saying something the social justice warriors and 'the woke' deem to be 'wrong...'

Won't be long before someone comes along and says 'well don't say bigoted, racist shit then if you don't want pulling up about it...' But these are the ones who call someone racist for saying they don't like Meghan Markle's dress. Wink

Threenow · 26/08/2023 01:50

FOJN · 25/08/2023 22:35

Unless I'm making personal comments why on earth should I feel bad if someone is offended/hurt? Seems like a very unhealthy approach to life.

Offence is taken, not given. It's time to encourage people to grow up and stop pretending that the world can be EVERYONE'S personal safe space.

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Well said! It's good to know that there are still some sensible people on MN, there are days when I really wonder.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/08/2023 02:52

I find my being affected by things I know deep in my heart that no person in real life could possibly give a 💩 about. But I suck it up and now I find myself wondering if The Lionesses is indeed a shit name for a women's football team 🤔. It would never had occurred to me without mn.

elifont · 27/08/2023 04:16

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 25/08/2023 22:48

100% agree @Butterflyfluff

I am sick to death of the perpetually offended now, and having to take your words out of your mouth and look at them before you say them, and the social justice warriors telling everyone what they can and can't say.

I am also sick of people being offended on behalf of others, and the terminology police. It all fucks me right off and I'm bored with it. I think the tide is turning though, and a lot of people are sick of it and bored with it now. Tired of being told off for saying something the social justice warriors and 'the woke' deem to be 'wrong...'

Won't be long before someone comes along and says 'well don't say bigoted, racist shit then if you don't want pulling up about it...' But these are the ones who call someone racist for saying they don't like Meghan Markle's dress. Wink

No one's offended , people now think should I be offended or not. If a man calls me 'love' it doesn't bother me, but I'm now forced to be offended or if I'm not then I'm part of the problem!

RocketIceLollie · 27/08/2023 06:18

A lot of people these days are too immature to understand other people are allowed to have different opinions and interests to themselves.

hattie43 · 27/08/2023 06:44

No-one has a backbone or resilience anymore . It's all over everywhere that offence to anything is legitimate so more people are seeing offence in anything and everything.

BaaCode · 27/08/2023 06:48

Well I'm offended that you're offended about others being offended.
Have you considered counselling for your offendedness?

sandgrown · 27/08/2023 06:52

I call these people “The Professionally Offended “ they take offence about anything. I think it is attention seeking.

Cotswoldbee · 27/08/2023 07:46

The ones that get me are from people with money or housing questions but start with a long apology about being in a fortunate position, aware others are struggling, first world problem etc etc.
Everyone is entitled to ask a question, it isn't a race to the bottom where only the less well off are allowed to ask for advice and be offended

Following that, there are those who will jump on any thread talking about money, investments, pensions, inheritance etc and ask if the OP is aware that some people do not have or are ever likely to be in a similar situation.
Again, even those in the "fortunate" position of having money, housing, retirement plans etc are allowed to ask questions without being vilified by the "offended".

And finally (sorry) those who make a comment which has no relevance to the OP's original question but is aiming to make them feel bad for asking the question in the first place.
For instance. Q. I want to retire at 55, do you think I will be ok (and then goes on to list savings, pensions, housing situation etc)? A. I won't ever be able to retire and will be working until I drop dead.
How on earth does that statement help anybody?

LakeTiticaca · 27/08/2023 07:46

Yep!! I'm lucky enough to be out of the work place now but noticed a big shift in the way (some) people behave.
The phrase that gave me the most rage was "be kind" which roughly translated as " I will do and say anything I want and if you object I will go whining to the management and you will get in trouble" this behaviour always came from those employees who took the most time off sick and did the least amount of work, in plain sight of management of course. Management always very reluctant to act as out would pop the mental health card. I fear for my grandchildren future in this world

MangshorJhol · 27/08/2023 08:02

Yes on MN which isn’t necessarily a microcosm of society. And people can adopt an online persona and say things they wouldn’t in real life. And there are some truly mind boggling threads!

But in real life the reality is that SOME people are more thin skinned but in many instances a lot of people and it’s mostly women who are taking less crap from others in life. (Single women, mothers, young girls, older women- the whole spectrum). And we are being told we are easily offended, it was just lighthearted, what’s the big deal, ah for the good old days when people knew a joke when they saw one.
When frankly we are quicker to call out sexist, misogynist crap more.

boobot1 · 27/08/2023 08:15

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 25/08/2023 22:48

100% agree @Butterflyfluff

I am sick to death of the perpetually offended now, and having to take your words out of your mouth and look at them before you say them, and the social justice warriors telling everyone what they can and can't say.

I am also sick of people being offended on behalf of others, and the terminology police. It all fucks me right off and I'm bored with it. I think the tide is turning though, and a lot of people are sick of it and bored with it now. Tired of being told off for saying something the social justice warriors and 'the woke' deem to be 'wrong...'

Won't be long before someone comes along and says 'well don't say bigoted, racist shit then if you don't want pulling up about it...' But these are the ones who call someone racist for saying they don't like Meghan Markle's dress. Wink

Couldnt agree more, its boring now

boobot1 · 27/08/2023 08:15

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 25/08/2023 22:48

100% agree @Butterflyfluff

I am sick to death of the perpetually offended now, and having to take your words out of your mouth and look at them before you say them, and the social justice warriors telling everyone what they can and can't say.

I am also sick of people being offended on behalf of others, and the terminology police. It all fucks me right off and I'm bored with it. I think the tide is turning though, and a lot of people are sick of it and bored with it now. Tired of being told off for saying something the social justice warriors and 'the woke' deem to be 'wrong...'

Won't be long before someone comes along and says 'well don't say bigoted, racist shit then if you don't want pulling up about it...' But these are the ones who call someone racist for saying they don't like Meghan Markle's dress. Wink

Couldnt agree more, its boring now

dontletsaskforthemoon · 27/08/2023 08:16

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/08/2023 02:52

I find my being affected by things I know deep in my heart that no person in real life could possibly give a 💩 about. But I suck it up and now I find myself wondering if The Lionesses is indeed a shit name for a women's football team 🤔. It would never had occurred to me without mn.

Haha...absolutely agree...

boobot1 · 27/08/2023 08:20

WibblyWobblyTimeyWimeyStuff · 25/08/2023 22:48

100% agree @Butterflyfluff

I am sick to death of the perpetually offended now, and having to take your words out of your mouth and look at them before you say them, and the social justice warriors telling everyone what they can and can't say.

I am also sick of people being offended on behalf of others, and the terminology police. It all fucks me right off and I'm bored with it. I think the tide is turning though, and a lot of people are sick of it and bored with it now. Tired of being told off for saying something the social justice warriors and 'the woke' deem to be 'wrong...'

Won't be long before someone comes along and says 'well don't say bigoted, racist shit then if you don't want pulling up about it...' But these are the ones who call someone racist for saying they don't like Meghan Markle's dress. Wink

Whats worse is, it cheapens real issues when everything is offensive. I cant believe grown adults can be that fragile!
Thank god my friends, relatives and collegues are as bewidered by it as me.

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