To love that Carrie Bradshaw doesn't have kids and they never discuss it

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I really love how the fact that Carrie in SATC doesn't have kids but it has never been a focal point of the show.

It's never been that she's been neither happy nor sad about not being a mother and never had to 'explain herself' on the topic.

I think it was a focal point in the second film where the other wedding guests were rude to her and Big when Carrie and Big said they had no plans to have children.

Then the whole rest of the film was about her trying to liven up her marriage and add the 'sparkle' because it will just be the two of them.

My friend is the same;she's about to turn 40 and is single and childless by choice;she could have been married with kids by now;she was in a relationship from age 19-36 with a friend of my DH;they engaged and owned a house together but ultimately she decided she didn't want to push on with a wedding or having babies so they broke up and he's moved on (abit like Carrie and Aiden).

I doubt if she meets anyone else she'll have kids.

I think it was covered in one of the episodes in the last series (15). There’s a lovely scene where Samantha asks Carrie to think about what life would be like without children. Petrovsky had told her that he didn’t want more children. It’s very well done.

It does pop up occasionally in the show and it's a plot point of one of the films. But it's nice that it isn't a thing the majority of the time

IIRC she thought she was preggers in one episode and Charlotte tried to talk her into having it. Carrie really wasn't up for it and luckily her period was just late.

I haven't seen those episodes but still nice that it isn't the focal point and everything centred around her being a 'lonely childless woman'

Carrie was always a bit of a materialistic narcissist, it would be a big switch up from that to 'lonely childless woman'.

There was an episode where it's about her having had an abortion in her past and wondering about what might have been (and Samantha having had 3, I think).

So it is addressed in detail.

I always thought that was very odd. Obviously it was a terrible film anyway .. but they could have dealt with the child thing differently.
By that point it was surely likely too late and SURELY it had come up before.. in some scenes it seemed it was a new conversation (in mid forties after years and years together?) which was so incredibly unlikely. It should have been mentioned like oh of course, if we’d wanted children we would have tried before now or we decided a long time a go to be just the two of us.
There were so many subjects that film could have handled differently.

I think your friend would prefer to be described as ‘child free’. ‘childless’ implies a lack of something, ie, a child!

I know that before I wanted children and had my son, ‘childless’ was a term I loathed.

It's addressed several times throughout the show. Be a bit boring to keep going on about it now she's nearly 60.

From the few wealthy New Yorkers I know age doesn’t seem to be a factor if they want a baby. IVF with donor eggs and surrogacy seem very normalised.

This!

As someone who is child free I find it’s only the older generation who comment on it.

my mum has taken to explaining to people infront of me why I don’t have children🫣. So that’s fun.

there are plenty of child free men portrayed in TV and movies - it’s just the females where it has to be a huge deal.

They discuss it all the time on TikTok 😀

@ChimneyPot very sad to see surrogacy becoming so normalised.

Very happy to see surrogacy becoming so normalised.

What an amazing thing to do for someone else.

But what shows do this? Phoebe in friends doesn't have children, she's not a Lonely Childless Woman. Doesn't seem like a big trope in tv. Maybe IRL, but not TV.