To think mumsnet is a god send?

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Okay that might be a bit dramatic but I don't have anyone to ask for advice apart from mumsnet and it's really helped me with serious issues like giving me the confidence to request a C section after previous sexual trauma after my midwife was giving me a hard time, helped me when I found out my son was diagnosed with a genetic disorder, has held my hand through really tough times and it's helped me with loads really and other threads and posts really helped me.

I guess I used mumsnet as a bit of a mum

I know some posters can be a bit mean especially on AIBU but I genuinely really love this community and it's not like I don't have any friends but sometimes you don't want to bother people with things like this and there's so many knowledgeable and understanding people on MN.

There's no point to this post and I promise it's not sponsored I just wanted you ladies (and men if they've ever posted on my threads) have been genuinely really helped me and I imagine I'll be around forever.

I agree!

I guess I used mumsnet as a bit of a mum

That’s a really lovely way to think of it.

(Just as long as one never forgets it’s a completely public forum and absolutely not any sort of private ‘safe space’.)

Apart from ‘How to collapse a veg box’ I don’t generally ask for advice here, but it’s been enormously helpful nevertheless, especially in showing me just how strongly other people veer from my habits and opinions on all sorts of things.

I agree. Yes AIBU can be nasty and you have to be prepared for a kicking. It's not for the faint-hearted. But that's the beauty of it. MN has helped me with some life-changing stuff.

If it weren't for MN it probably would have taken me much longer to realise that my marriage was abusive and I needed to get out. I would never have got that kind of frank feedback from my friends because I would never have dared to have been as honest as I was on here.

People are really quick to slam the "LTB crowd" as being over the top but the beauty of this is that its much easier for complete strangers to be honest with you that your OH is a controlling/abusive/cheating/boring arse than it is for someone who knows him. No one ever chucked in a marriage on the basis of responses to a MN post. MN posts only serve to allow people to listen to the suspicions that are already there. Which is a good thing.

Aside from this I've been given comfort on a (false positive) mammogram, expert advice on choosing schools, good practical advice on behavioural stuff for kids, fashion advice, legal advice, holiday advice, advice on pest control. You name it.

You have to be prepared to take the rough with the smooth and no go in expecting people to pander to your desire to put your head in the sand. But if you want free, genuine, unbiased and frank advice it's bloody brilliant.

I agree. There are some nasty and 'off' posters, but I think the good points far outweigh the bad. Some of the MN Classics threads, CF and some of the parking ones are absolutely hilarious and a bit of light on a bleak day.

The Cockroach Cafe and Stately Homes threads are immensely supportive and helpful and have been a real source of comfort and solidarity for a great many. I personally also find the alcohol-free support thread really invaluable. Potentially quite literally a life-safer.

I also feel that the site is moderated well. Some nasty posters do slip through but, for the most part, the real wrong 'uns are spotted and rooted out.

I agree, when im searching anything in google i put mumsnet at the end of the search term as i know someone out there has asked the same question and got great replies, holidays, appliances, illness, you name it.

I've had a lit of good advice and many many laughs over the years from you vipers.

It is very helpful, informative and hilarious. On all sorts of subjects. I love it.
I am the only person in my family and friend group that is on it. I'm always telling friends etc about it.

YANBU - even if you don't post questions but do a search, there is an astonishing, and I would say unrivalled, wealth of experience and advice.

Im with you - been on here for over 8 years - wish it had been around when i was a new mum in the early 90s!

I completely agree
I've learnt so much about so many things on here.

Yes, I love it!

The support I've had on the Litter tray section has been amazing!

Plus one. There’s nothing else like it.

To all the women who champion and support others, for the mothering support, relationship support, the gender critical warriors ❤️, the hilarity of some threads, the political debates, the scurrilous gossip, the heartbreaking kindness and the delightful randomness - thank you.

I agree, posting here and having people respond has actually made me feel more confident about myself, plus Mumsnet has improved my relationship as I think I am more appreciative of my DP after reading some of the stories here. Not to set the bar low or anything, but the number of women here who are being controlled in some way is a shocker.

I have friends who slag off mumsnet and presume it’s a kind of small minded daily mail outpost, which is actually quite a misogynist presumption in itself.

I love it here. The moderation is much better than most social media platforms, and having a women-centric space is great. As a Yank, it's also been a fascinating window into British culture.

Yes, completely agree.

Wish it had been around when mine were babies.
There is such a wealth of experience and help on here. Not just about 'being a Mum' either.
Plus, I love the discussion.

I love the support.
I love the humour.

I love it here , have posted a few times myself for advice and been very grateful to receive it.
I've also learnt a lot , found new ways of trying things , signed up to bargain threads before Christmas for bargains and loved the what's in your Christmas fridge thread too 🤣

Totally agree - my Mum's no longer with us so this is a poor second best, but still a godsend.

Mn has its moments. But I think its fantastic. It gives me a safe place to talk. I don't have anyone in RL. If it was not for MN I would be completely alone. so definitely a good thing for me.

I do this too
I thought I had athletes foot once. After various creams etc I looked on here and it was a type of eczema. Cleared up in no time!

I amazed DD and her boyfriend the other when they were just about to book and air bnb in New York by telling them they weren't allowed there.

I have learned so much from here as so many different voices. I could not replicate that irl.

I took some time out from here as the nastiness was getting me down. I felt so much better for it. There are many on here who are incredibly nasty and obviously get a kick out of hurting others. I don't feel their responses are reflective of the real world either. I avoid posting in this section of the forum particularly now. Just don't need the crap of dealing with bitchiness and spiteful and rude comments.

I do this too Toasties!
If it doesn't come up I'm flapping 😂

It's the general health topic I think.
Have seen many times a post with the strangest symptoms and pp will recommend 101, that it's serious and is called XYZ. Then a few others confirming the same
Next update the OP is thanking them from a hospital bed, confirming the serious conditions name and saying hosp staff said it's lucky they came when they did