to ask for a further compromise?

[nivera]

hi I live in a maisonette type place (one flat on the bottom and one on the top) the top one has steps leading up to the front door (my one) and it has an enclosed garden for us both. They have a small dog on the bottom one and she used to leave the door open an awful lot with a mesh type door to keep dog in but get fresh air and every time I would walk past the dog would come running and bark and bark and bark at me on the other side of the mesh. It did my head in especially on bin day or if I'm doing anything that requires more than one trip as he goes on and on and on until I'm inside my flat. I had a word with her and she said she's sorry but it's only when I'm walking past and it's not like it's constant all the time and I explained but I can't use the garden because if he hears me he will be barking at me and she has said ok if you want to use the garden just let me know and I will close the door. Which was a bit of a faff in itself as it meant I had to ring the doorbell that's right next to this barking dog and I simply didn't bother as it wasn't worth it. I spoke to her again saying look can you please keep the door closed and she has said ok but she will then have the windows open and will be able to hear it just as much and I have said it is better than having him stand there barking. So now she does keep the door closed but has her windows open and the dog still barks and barks when I go past. Is it wrong to try and ask for a further compromise? This feels awful and is genuinely move worthy.

That would drive me completely nuts! You have my sympathy. You need to be able to go into your own garden without this barrage of barking.

It is driving me insane! I think it's a bit more muffled with the door closed now but I can obviously still hear it as the windows are open and just wish he would shut up for a bit! Some days I don't hear it at all and I assume they have gone out and that's when I try and utilise the time but it should not have to be this way!!

But she can, she just needs to ask, as the other owner already suggested

Well not really because that was the compromise before the final one we have now. Which was to ask and she will close the door. The door is now permanently closed anyway but the windows are open so I can still hear it very clearly

Make friends with the dog then it won't bark

Yabu

Neighbour has tried to compromise and offered to close the door if you want to spend time outside and now closes the door all the time for you. She obviously needs to have windows open to air her house out, so im not sure what you expect her to do next. As she said it's not as though the dog barks constantly. If you don't like it then you are free to move house.

Have you met the dog in controlled circumstances and let it give you a sniff, say hello etc? That might solve the problem if it thinks of you as a friend.

Does she say why the dog is barking? Would it help if you made friends with the dog so it knows you're not a threat/intruder (which is presumably why it's barking)?

I'm not sure there is a further compromise she can make, other than keeping all her doors and windows closed at all times or getting rid of her dog. She's unlikely to go with either of those I would have thought. What compromise would you like her to make?

Does it stop barking once you've gone past? My dog will bark if he hears someone outside the window but I tell him to stop. Is she just letting it bark? If she is that sounds more a her problem than a dog problem.