To not want someone to visit who has bedbugs

[sarrys]

My aunty has just been battling bedbugs, trying to get rid, has been doing it herself rather than hiring someone.

She wants to visit. I am terrified of her bringing them into our home. We have a baby, well even if we didnt i wouldnt want it of course but if we had to fumigate whilst keeping the baby out that would be a nightmare!

I dont know anything about them but a quick google search tells me people can bring them into your home.

Aibu to say no? But when will it be safe to have her over?

Ha ha, OP if you'd put the vote buttons on I reckon you'd have got an unheard-of 100% vote for YANBU!

Not laughing at her (or anyone else), though - poor woman. But DO NOT knowingly expose yourself to the risk.

How do you check in a hotel to not bring them back? I have to take my own pillows and genuinely worry I’ll bring them back

I saw a TikTok by a flight attendant who said she leaves her suitcase outside the hotel room door until she's checked that the headboard and the inner hem of the mattress are bedbug free.

Don't let her anywhere near your home.

I might have to google some videos to check this

No no no. I got into a car of a friend who had bed bugs. The experience was severely traumatic. Please don't put yourself through this. I was trying to be a good friend but it destroyed our friendship in the end. It was simply horrific. I still dream about it and the utter chaos and hell it caused. Please protect yourself. Be selfish. I wish to God that I had been.

No way. Do not bring this on yourself, you would be absolutely mad to say yes.

No no no no no. We bought a house with bed bugs. It was utter hell. Your baby will be fine (they go after adults because of the CO2 you breathe out), you will be a broken shell of a human.

"I think we'll wait til the bed bugs are sorted". Done

I can't see the dilemma here, Shirley she understands that you don't want an infestation? And you appreciate that she's trying to eradicate them

It’s absolute hell! We had a solid wood bed frame which came in 4 pieces and had to be hammered together. Even the bedbug guy was like there’s no way they’re in there!

We dumped the bedframe on some land we had access to and literally smashed it apart as we couldn’t believe they were in gaps that small. We needed to see them to make sure we weren’t going crazy! But there they were! We lit the frame on fire afterwards and burnt them alive. Was paranoid for months after.

Agree with all the messages. Don’t entertain her. Buy her a coffee instead.

Say no. Arrange to meet in a neutral place like a cafe.

Bedbugs love the edges of mattresses, and she can’t bag that up and wash it.

Don’t let her stay.

YANBU. From what I've read about them on here, bedbugs are a total nightmare.

There is no chance that would be happening.

God no! I lived in a shared house that had bed bugs in my 20s, was bitten head to toe and they are so hard to get rid of. Still makes me shudder and was 20 years ago!

Also they live in the mattress or any other type of furnishings so the landlord had to fumigate the whole place!

I had a nightmare about bedbugs last night. Cheers OP