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AIBU?

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WIBU for not letting her in?

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MidnightNuisance · 24/08/2023 23:56

Two nights ago I was woken up by somebody pressing my buzzer at 12.30am. I was home alone with just my children and didn't want to answer it as nobody I know would ever come here unannounced at that time. They continued to press it incessantly for a good five minutes.

It occurs to me that it might be an emergency so I give my head a wobble and answer it asking who it is.

It's a woman I've never spoken to before claiming she needs to get into the building to check on somebody at number 8. It sounded like a welfare issue so I buzzed her in. I look on my ring doorbell and see her going up the stairs with a bloke with her. Never seen her before nor know who lives at number 8.

Just now, again around midnight, she's back again ringing my buzzer incessantly. This time she's saying she lives at number 8 but has lost her keys. Same bloke with her as last time.

I'm pissed off by now and refuse to let her in again.

WIBU not to?

The fuck is that about?

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tt9 · 24/08/2023 23:57

sounds like someone casing the property for a future burglary. I would never let someone into the shared building who doesn't live there....

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MidnightNuisance · 25/08/2023 00:00

tt9 · 24/08/2023 23:57

sounds like someone casing the property for a future burglary. I would never let someone into the shared building who doesn't live there....

That's what I'm wondering now.

I haven't lived here for very long and I'm out of the flat from 7 until 6 so haven't had the chance to meet all of the neighbors yet so gave her the benefit of the doubt the first time as she sounded panicked.

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Thehippowife · 25/08/2023 00:04

This is dodgy. I wouldn’t let her in and i would tell her to stop ringing or you’ll call police if she does this again. They could be cuckooing the upstairs flat.

Ponoka7 · 25/08/2023 00:09

Most places have clauses in the lease that you aren't to do this. You could be aiding and abetting a crime etc.

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 25/08/2023 00:14

Sounds a bit dodgy tbh.

I mean, it's possible that there was a welfare issue in Flat 8 and now they live there (whether inherited or to help out)

Maybe if you have it come up again where they want to check on someone then you go "which flat? I'll go and check."

If she's being a nuisance you could try calling the police. They might turn up XD

Nocturna · 25/08/2023 00:19

Can’t you put your buzzer on silent? I wouldn’t let her in again as you’re gonna constantly get this nonsense

AngryBirdsNoMore · 25/08/2023 00:21

Is she pressing multiple bells at once, do you know, or just yours?

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MidnightNuisance · 25/08/2023 00:22

I can put my buzzer on silent yes. I should've thought of that after the other night.

The bloke has gone to his car and come back in twice now.

I've taken a screenshot of the pair of them just incase.

Strange and peculiar people!

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MidnightNuisance · 25/08/2023 00:23

AngryBirdsNoMore · 25/08/2023 00:21

Is she pressing multiple bells at once, do you know, or just yours?

I've no idea about tonight but the other night I think it was just mine as there was no lapse between the rings it just kept going and going.

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NeedTheSeaside · 25/08/2023 00:26

@MidnightNuisance

could you get his car reg?

YouCantTunaFish · 25/08/2023 00:28

I'd go to number 8 in the morning and ask them what's going on. If it's the idiots that have been buzzing you, then they are your twatty neighbours. If they haven't a clue then you've done them a neighbourhood watch bonus

determinedtomakethiswork · 25/08/2023 00:28

If she lied once then she clearly lied both times.

I would go to number eight sometime tomorrow and see who actually lives there.

GrumpyOldCrone · 25/08/2023 00:35

If she lost her keys, how did she get into number 8?

I’d put the buzzer on silent every night at 9pm and turn it back in again in the morning.

Unless you’re on the ground floor and she might knock on your windows?

Wingedharpy · 25/08/2023 01:10

Is number 8 a cannabis farm?

Coriolise · 25/08/2023 01:14

I’d call 101 and report to the police,
for future reference the police do after hours welfare checks and they wouldn’t need to buzz a neighbour to get into a building.

Coriolise · 25/08/2023 01:16

YouCantTunaFish · 25/08/2023 00:28

No, don’t do this. If #8 is dodgy could be sticking your neck out. Report to 101 and let the police go to #8 for a look round.

Babymamamama · 25/08/2023 02:21

You are being irresponsible if you let anyone in who you don’t know. I live in a block and occasionally random people get in and just sleep in the hallway, which is due to someone buzzing them in.

Stationerygasm · 25/08/2023 03:44

Coriolise · 25/08/2023 01:14

I’d call 101 and report to the police,
for future reference the police do after hours welfare checks and they wouldn’t need to buzz a neighbour to get into a building.

I'd do this too

Chris002 · 14/09/2023 15:13

Does your block have a key fob entry system only asking because ours does and I had a neighbour who used to ask me to buzz him in,I did this a few times for he used to tell me he had lost his entry fob and was waiting for a new one - this went on for months and then one day I saw him being evicted - turns out if the managers of the property are trying to evict you they can turn off the key fob so it is hard to get in and out of the building.

bjrce · 14/09/2023 15:18

Under no circumstances ever open you door to strangers at night.

Ring 101 and report to the police - You have no idea who these people are. If they are getting themselves locked out - that's their problem.

The very fact - they've come back again is suspicious in itself!

Healingfrommothernarc · 14/09/2023 15:22

Someone used to do this in our old flat complex who was beating his partner. They had split up and someone buzzed him in... had to phone police for domestic abuse.

GrandTheftWalrus · 14/09/2023 15:43

Coriolise · 25/08/2023 01:14

I’d call 101 and report to the police,
for future reference the police do after hours welfare checks and they wouldn’t need to buzz a neighbour to get into a building.

I've had to buzz the police into my building at midnight before. The buzzer kept going and answered it to shout at them and they said it was the police needing access (I could see them on the video) and I said I'll let them in but not to buzz again as I had a baby sleeping.

CatamaranViper · 14/09/2023 15:48

TBH OP I would have done the exact same as you.

With what was said as well, you don't know what the situation was so you going to check in flat 8 could have been bad, and not letting in the welfare check could have been bad. Then again, letting them in also could have been bad. I think once is understandable, twice is a definite no no.

Mind, when I lived in a block of flats once, I managed to lock myself in the middle of the night (taking a shitty nappy to the outside bin) and no one would let me in. We didn't have a camera to the door so obviously no one could see me to let me in. Was freezing and chucking stones at our balcony window to try and get DH to wake up and let me in. I ended up ringing my mam who had a spare key who dove over to let me in.

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