Isnt really an AIBU, posting here for traffic
My 8 year old turns everything into a negative and it's really starting to get to me now. I'm sat in the garden trying to calm down because I'm actually so angry its unbelievable
Yesterday we went on a family day out to an activity centre. DD CHOSE to go on several climbing/slide things then every single time, held up the queue, crying saying she didnt want to do it. Not a problem, come down then. No, she doesnt want to come down, she wants to sit at the top and cry and cause a scene. Why not just come down the steps? It's not a fear of heights she went up and down several of them with no issue at all.
Today, took her swimming. She cannot swim. Takes her swim vest off in the middle of the pool and then starts crying getting angry at me when I make her put it back on, because she CANNOT swim. Told her she can either put it back on or get out and she chose to get out, crying on the side of the pool looking around to see if anyone was looking at her
Weve come home, all their toys are still all over the front room, ask for their help and she starts crying claiming she doesnt know where anything goes. Their her own toys, take them to your room?
At school, she is constantly crying about her work when she doesnt want to do it, threatens to kill herself then gets took into a special room where she doesnt have to do her room and gets lots of sympathy ect
We had a family worker last year who said to ignore it and I do so she doesnt threaten to kill herself at home anymore, but she does at school
It's like every interaction is negative or met with negativity.
I tell her so many positive things about herself, I tell her how kind she is, how fun she is, how much i love her, shes beautiful ect and every single day its met with negativity
It might be because it's the school holidays and I've had enough now, but every single interaction is just turned into a negative. I'm sick of it. Absolutely sick of it.
Shes awaiting an assessment for ADHD which I do think she has as is diagnosed in January.
I'm at my wits end. This post in itself probably seems very negative, but I try very hard to make sure my house is positive, calm and happy and she is just constantly turning anything and everything into a negative. I dont know what to do anymore.
How do I stop this negative attention seeking?
I have another DC who lives with us and they are the complete opposite. Such a happy go lucky character, such positive self esteem. I dont know where it's gone so wrong with her?
I sat here angry and upset now because I just dont understand why she is like this and why she seems to enjoy the negative so much? Why does everything have to turn into a feel sorry for me fest?
I dont want to be upset and angry at my own child. This isnt why I became a mum. This isnt fun at all and i just dont know what to do anymore