to not let dd watch what she wants on tv?

[JamDonutsOnly]

dd is 16 and ds is 11 and she loves shows like dexter. there is a tv rule of one episode selection each and they take it in turns. dd always wants to watch inappropriate programs for ds. i have seen some of the dexter episodes and they are not appropriate for a primary aged child imo and yes he is starting secondary school but still.

she has said it is not fair as he can pick younger shows that would never suit her so how can she not have shows that don't suit him but having a show she doesn't like vs one actually being inappropriate is very different imo.

she says i should make ds do something else so she can enjoy the tv sometimes but i can't just ban him from the living room. AIBU?

Get her a Fire stick. Problem solved

Can she screen mirror from her phone to tv?

Agree with others that you should get her a Firestick for the TV in her room. Watching TV on a laptop or a phone isn't the best viewing experience.

If you're not prepared to do that, you really should just tell your DS to stay out of the living room for an hour while she watches something. You cannot possibly expect a 16-year-old to restrict her viewing to programmes appropriate for a primary school child; it's not fair.

My siblings are ten years and seven years older than me and it was always understood when I was a kid that sometimes they were allowed to watch things that were 'too old' for me and that I needed to play in my room or at the kitchen table for an hour or two instead.

Similar setup here too.
11 yr old has bedtime of 9 so before 9, watch anything suitable for 11 yr old. Sometimes by them self or together or all of us.
Then after 9, more mature stuff.

Does your eleven year old son actually watch TV, unless it is something he particularly likes? I remember when mine was that age, he, and his friends, were usually busy doing something else unless it was a programme that interested; TV had less importance to them than to me and husband and we were not glued to it.

@JamDonutsOnly
One used the TV and one eg a tablet if it's eg Netflix etc with headphones
Or two tvs different rooms?
I can understand your perspectives

Can't she watch once he's gone to bed? Or in her room?

Eh, not in everyone's home it's not! My kids have their own bedrooms with TV's, game consoles etc and space to lounge about with their mates. No need to hang around my living room taking up space 😅

Just get her an amazon fire stick and she can watch on her tv.

if they were sitting quietly reading a book, wouldn't be a problem, they're just not allowed to sit in here and watch TV unless its something we're all happy to watch, play noisy videos' on their tablets, or use the lounge TV to play games on.. and they're expected to go elsewhere if there is something i want to watch that is unsuitable, or they'd find boring.

As i said, they have each have their own bedrooms, and they have their own lounge/play room that is set up as a teenagers dream den with ps5, tv, access to netflix, disney plus, and amazon prime. They even have access to MY bedroom in the day as its where we keep the Xbox set up, again, with access to netflix/disney plus incase one wants to play and the other watch TV. They also get dibs on the dining table for their laptops.

The lounge is my space, am i not entitled to any space in the house to relax/enjoy time alone in the quiet with a book, or my music, without a teenager complaining they don't want to listen to it?

In my world it's not unusual to have a family room and also an adult only living/lounge room.

When my children were small the tv was in the 'adult' room and toys were allowed in there only in very limited numbers. We moved the tv into the family space once they were older, and yes, we do allow the older children times to watch tv that is not for younger eyes. It's only during 'family' time that the show must be ok for everyone in the house.

I try to limit weekday watching but it's never that successful.