To do this,

[Isitseptember]

Move my kids out of their nice modest family home. Move into council or housing where they would have to share a room.
Possibly give up access to car, no holidays when they are used to 2 a year.
Live off benefits, when they are used to days, meals out every week.
Or stay together as a family in a loveless relationship.

"If you can tolerate it, stay where you are for now. Enjoy the modest house, holidays etc. But start hobbies/activities etc just for you, so when the time does arrive you eventually leave, you'll have things to occupy yourself."

JFC what is wrong with people on here? Stay for the holidays but take up yoga so you'll have something to do when you leave? 🙄

How about get a job, work hard and provide a nice life for the children you've chosen to have rather than fucking about taking up hobbies

Can you say any more about your relationship with your partner? You've said it's not violent but are there other issues - is he controlling, coercive, anything like that? Are you arguing a lot? There are issues between parents which could affect the children much more than sharing a bedroom.

There might be all sorts of reasons to leave the relationship other than actual violence.

If you're muddling along OK but it's just that the spark is gone, that's different.

"Ok . Of you was going homless route. He would have to write you a letter saying you and the children can't stay there. You will then be put into emgency accommodation."

@Summa23 why would he write a letter saying his children can't live in their home so that they can go and live in some shithole while their mother waits to be handed a council house in about 5 years time?! Fuck me. Raise your standards

So keep the partner in the dark about intention to split in the future and live an enhanced lifestyle under false pretences because it suits... that's some cold and calculating thinking right there.

If it's "just" loveless and not abusive or violent then personally I would stay.

I will probably get flamed for this but I think when you're a parent you kind of have to put them first. Living in homeless accommodation and scrimping by on benefits during a CoL crisis because I'd fallen out of love with their father is... to put it bluntly, selfish.

Totally different conversation if there is abuse or no other option of course.

I'm telling her how the system works . She asked about council I have told her how it works. If he does not write the letter op will be seen as making herself homeless. Don't shoot me for how the system works. I have Been in temporary accommodation myself its shit

No she doesn't!