We've exchanged and complete in 2 weeks - buyers want YET ANOTHER viewing

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We've exchanged contracts on the sale of our house - completion is in two weeks (we're in England).

Pre-exchange we accommodated multiple viewings - of course. We felt it was just part of the process and seemed fair enough.

We exchanged at the end of July. Since then, the buy has asked for (and we've accommodated) two more viewings, one really last minute while they knew we were on holiday and away (but we figured it out so they could come) and the second time one afternoon on a day they knew was a working day for us but was the only day/time that worked for them. We accommodated. They were here for four hours (the house is a pretty regular 4-bed detached house in a village - not some pile somewhere with a million rooms and corridors).

They're coming again today - for the third time. They've even asked me to push out a work call I have in case they need longer than 90 minutes here (I told them about that to try to get a sense of how long they'll be here for).

AIBU for feeling really quite put out??! The house is utter chaos - boxes everywhere, dust all over because we're actively packing. It doesn't look good at all and it's really stressing me out. I have been up until god knows what our the past two nights and up with the sparrows the following mornings trying to make things look a bit neater (not sure it's made a difference) but the more i do the angrier I get about it all. To top it off, the buyer sent us an email last night essentially saying "see you tomorrow" but jibed that "I guess you're more relaxed than we are". Well that's set me right off. I'm absolutely raging - they have no idea of all the shit going on in our lives at the moment (the house move is only one element and probably the least stressful one).

Please someone tell me I'm not being over-sensitive and they're truly CFs. Being tired and cranky isn't helping me no doubt, but we wouldn't dream of heading to our sellers' house now, when we'd been twice post-exchange already and when completion is in two weeks, so this is really pissing me off. I really need to not lose my shit at them when they rock up later this morning. Eeeeek.

Houses are very expensive these days. I'm not surprised buyers want to make several views before moving in-I don't think three visits is excessive. The length of the visits is odd, but making probably the largest financial purchase of your life should require sufficient consideration.

It is a bit late for consideration when you have already exchanged. Surely the time for that is before making an offer or after survey?

Houses are very expensive these days. I'm not surprised buyers want to make several views before moving in-I don't think three visits is excessive. The length of the visits is odd, but making probably the largest financial purchase of your life should require sufficient consideration.

That's what quantity surveyors are for.

What on earth can they be doing in that time? It beggars belief. I bought my house that I am living in now with one viewing with the EA which took about 30 mins - pretty standard and there were people before and after us so it couldn't run over. We then went back and viewed with the vendors and stayed about an hour, this was offered to us by them.

I managed to buy furniture for it using the floor plan and working out what would fit in each room, I only made one mistake and just put that piece of furniture somewhere else. She left all of the blinds and curtains anyhow so I didn't need to measure up for those.

I would tell them to do one

This is mental!! I felt cheeky asking for a measuring up visit but I really needed to know I would be able to have curtains up in the kids rooms on the first night. But we stayed 5 minutes in total. I don’t even know what you could measure that would take 4 hours, let alone multiple visits! Are they attempting to make a scale model of the house out of plasticine do you think?

I don't see what QS have to do with it. I've moved house a lot in my life, and don't see why there is a limit on viewings before moving in, who decided that?! The amount of threads on MN about regret after moving, maybe more viewings should be the norm.

This is absolutely bonkers. Staying for 4 hours?! I would go insane.

I would refuse, saying we are really busy with preparations for moving and I'm afraid we don't have time.

It sounds to me like they are looking for a reason to pull out.

If it makes you feel any better, the last time we moved (2014), the seller called me a few days before completion and asked 'if she could stay just a few more days as she's struggling to pack everything in time'.
She knew we were renting and weren't actually moving in on the completion date.
Of course I said, absolutely not. She didn't leave until like 9pm that evening. She also kept a set of keys and went back in the house after we'd completed. I was furious.

God, I’d be finding it hard not to throttle them. They have had more than ample time to check and measure and asks questions now. The deal is done. Say an outright no to the next proposed visit. Tell them it doesn’t work for you - you’ll measure / photograph anything that they want to see again but you cannot accommodate a 6th? 7th? visit because things are hectic and they should have made sure they had everything they needed during their last 70 minute visit. It’s not their house until completion so they need to stop treating it like it’s no biggie to just drop round all the bloody time while you’re trying to work and pack.

WTAF?! That's like....trespass isn't it???!!!

Some of the responses on here are barmy - I'm only sorry that so many of you have had equally (or more) horrendously stressful experiences. Does make you wander about the insidious entitlement culture (I'm starting to think that that's it) that's starting to really invade society. Horrid.

I can't wait until this is all over now tbh. I know that there will be some comms/requests for help post-completion. It's inevitable I feel with these guys, but we're not monsters so will absolutely help, but I'm certainly not going to be popping over to our (by then) old house every week to help with light switches or boiler settings or some other shite if that's what they're thinking - I have a demanding full time job that doesn't involve being their handyman/PA. Maybe that sounds a bit selfish but I learned a valuable life lesson today, which honestly has been a proper emotional test!

I absolutely agree with this advice. Thank you. If there is any more arsing about re measurements/reminder of what something looks like, I'll do exactly that and measure for them or send pics.

@CrapBucket Your username has made me LOL and now I can't stop. It's happened - I've lost it.

Next time just don’t answer the phone surely?!?!

I feel sorry for your neighbours when they get this lot!

They are paying for the OPs house not her constant attention. It’s a business transaction , she does not need to grovel to the other party just because they are buying her house. Totally baffled as to why she should be accommodating of their ridiculous behaviour, presumably she is buying another house and not behaving like this.

@Cerealkillerontheloose Good and tempting idea! Probably I'd rather have the certainty and just say no and know that they've heard me say no. If I leave it open/unconfirmed in that way, I couldn't be sure that they wouldn't just show up on the off chance! I could be being unfair there, but it's just my feeling based on the experience to date.

WTAF were they doing for 70 minutes. OP you don't have an anger problem, I wouldn't have let them across the threshold.

I really hope they're not going to shit on you before completion.

@cyclamenqueen Nope, and this is emphatic, we are NOT behaving like this towards our own sellers!

Erm, no it's not.

They prob wanted to measure up etc but with two weeks to go I would say no more. That's not convenient for you while working and getting ready to move.

I had no viewings after they put the offer in. I was way too busy with my own stuff. Once you exchange its all systems go there is no way id have another viewing

This also happened to us (keeping keys and coming back in to pick up stuff they'd left). We got our solicitor to write to theirs saying it was trespass and they'd signed a contract to hand over all the keys. They didn't try it again. But they did call me from outside the house on a Tuesday afternoon to say they were outside and could they collect their post. I was at work. We forwarded their mail for about six months, then stopped after a bailiff arrived chasing an unpaid fine. We told them everything was going in the bin and they were lucky we hadn't given the bailiff their new address.