MIL nightmare

[Jessxpoppy]

My Partner is working away for 6 months and expects me to "check up" on my MIL. She constant gets annoyed/jealous if
We have 3 way calls. (Cheaper to do a 3 way call for him)
However rewind 3 weeks ago i happened to bump into my MIL sister and she mentioned how she was slagging me off making comments about me.
He told his mother on a 3 way call it's ridiculous and we needs to get along (when referencing comments she made
To her sister about me)
I have a child to a previous relationship but my partner is extremely close
With child.. another thing which annoys her
He constant ask me to check up on his mum, which I don't want to and when I do she gives me the cold shoulder!
How can I tell my partner "nicely" that she's a toxic attention seeking witch

Seems your on the phone regularly with your DH and MIL so he's checking up himself.

3 way calls as cheaper in 2023? Tell me more

You need to telling him you dont get along, it's coming from her and you have tried.
You are not her child and it's not up to him to tell you to get along

It’s worrying that you think you need to tell your partner “nicely” that you won’t check in his mother. It’s fairly cheeky of him to insist.

Just say “I will not be checking on your mum because we donot have a good relationship, she has been rude about me and she doesn’t appear to want me checking on her.”

It all sounds insanely complicated. What does he mean by "check up" on? And are you sure the sister is telling the truth? And why can't he just phone her himself?

Incidentally- the three way calls would drive me insane, whichever one of the three I was.

Why does your MIL need checking up on? Is she vulnerable in some way?

And why are you having three way calls? Why doesn't DH just call his mum without involving you?

Why does this cost you money?

I'm very intrigued.

Yea cut this out. I mean it can’t be THAT expensive can it? I’d rather talk one on one every other night than 3way every night.

I wouldn't be nice about it.

His mother isn't nice to you or about you. The best he can hope for is that I have the dignity and grace she does not, and do not give her as good as I get.

His mother, his problem.