To be upset that SIL tried to start an argument in the street?

[Mamaseekingrainbow]

And that my husband won’t address this with her?

Background - myself and SIL (husbands sister) have been pretty much no contact for a year or more.
I happened to pass her in the street outside my place of work last week which is the first time I’ve seen her alone since we stopped speaking.
She immediately tried to start an argument with me but given the time and place it definitely wouldn’t have been appropriate for me to bite back!
I’m 38 weeks pregnant and we’ve had a super stressful few weeks with a house move and my toddler breaking his arm on top of a difficult pregnancy so I’m at full mental capacity.

I don’t know if I’m more angry at her or at my husband because he won’t speak to her about it! (Or of course if I’m just hormonal!)

She is aware of our current situation (MIL still shares every detail of our life with her) and still thought it an appropriate time to open up old wounds, I thought we were both happier with being no contact so I don’t know why she’d do this now.

Ignore her, and don’t get your husband involved.

Be good to yourself.
Concentrate on you, your baby and your DH.
The only thoughts you need to have about SIL are how to avoid bumping into her again if possible.

Nothing to be gained by getting DH to continue to drama with her. Keep the moral high ground and focus on pregnancy and DC. Ignore her.

She thrives on drama clearly. She kicked off in public to make you react. If your DH starts on, she will get the reaction she has been after....in fact doubly so because she will then also be able to say "Oh and she cant speak to me herself, she has to get DH to do it for her!!!"

Can you try and reframe it in your memory? Imagine her all excited at seeing you and trying to push your buttons, and her fury at you simply walking away. Her frustration now, waiting for the inevitable comments from your MIL about how upset you are and your DH giving her shit about it......except none of that comes.

Funny isnt it?! Really, it is laughable when you frame it like that.

@PyongyangKipperbang this really makes sense - thank you.
Husband has to tread carefully also as we are currently in the process of buying her out of a property that she and he own together so we don’t want to make that more difficult than it already is!
It has just struck a nerve (probably due to raging pregnancy hormones!)

I disagree, he needs to be aware. It’s his family, it’s his mum passing on information to her, and he is best placed to resolve this informally.

if he keeps her on side, what’s the benefit to your family with respect to the house? I’m assuming your husband would need to pay at least market value to buy her out. It doesn’t really seem like she intends to sell for anything less than that if this is her attitude. So my question is what does he have to lose?

@call911 annoyingly I was walking to meet my husband, had it have been a minute or so later I’d have been with him and she’d probably not have said a thing!

@call911 we plan to move in to the house (it’s currently rented but the tenant is struggling to find anywhere to move to so on hold at the moment anyway - hence the stressful house move we have just been through as ours sold just before the prices crashed in the UK and we just completed a fortnight ago)
SIL needs the cash out of the sale to pay off her ex husband so she can stay in her home.
It is a messy situation overall!