To think my ex should encourage a relationship between his kids and ours?

[AJ65]

I got together with my ex when his kids were 7 & 9, they are now 28 & 30 and our daughter is 17. We split a couple of years ago and our daughter has no contact with her Dad and I have very little.

Last Christmas I asked him to encourage my stepkids to get in touch, but he brought up some argument he claimed was going on between my DSD and DD and DD had to apologize. I asked DD about it, and she showed me the last message she and her SS had exchanged and I couldn't see any issue.

I live abroad and exchange messages with my stepkids. My DSD is more responsive than my DSS, but I know he's depressed and finds communication difficult. I just don't feel it's my place to encourage them to contact their step-sister, but I really want her to have a relationship with them.

Is it unreasonable of me to ask my ex to encourage them to contact her?

At that age I think yabu

They are fully grown adults. If they want to be in contact with either of you they will. They don't need their dad's permission.

I certainly don't think they need his permission, but he's in a position to encourage the relationship that I'm not.

Yabu op. Step kids are full grown adults. Why would their dad get involved. If you are concerned enough and get on with them like you say just call them.

If 3 siblings want to chat they will.