Not sure what to do about sibling and family - looking for some help!

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Hi all, been here along time but name changed as I just don’t want to be linked to previous threads by anyone who recognises me.

Just so there is no drip feeding I’m going to give backstory here.

Only have one sibling. Always close growing up and then both met our other halves, everyone gets on really well. Both have children, all the kids get on really well. Kids all in and out of each others houses etc.

A few months ago one of their children and one of mine had a minor falling out. This seemed to spiral and now they aren’t speaking. My child is more upset about this than theirs.

My main problem is that because of this situation my children have gone from seeing their cousins and aunt and uncle on a very regular basis to not at all and vice versa.
I have tried to talk to them about this as my children are really really upset about this but nothing seems to change. I don’t know what to do? Not really an AIBU but I’m really lost. I have children who had a lovely circle around them who are really feeling the loss and I’m also feeling sad about the fact that we are also not seeing anyone.

Also if anyone has any advice on how best to talk to my DC about this I would appreciate it as they are devastated. Thanks.

How old are the children?

Surely they can see other people?
Friends?

Children are various ages, I have 4 kids personally. Yes they all have other friends but it’s more the family aspect that they are upset about. One of my children is most upset about the fact that they have gone from seeing their aunt and uncle weekly to not seeing them for months now.

So have you discussed this with your sibling? How old are the children who've fell out?

Hello,

We had/have a somewhat similar situation in my family (with my family in this case I mean my parents, my sibling and I. My sibling and I are adults now).
We have a really close relationship with another family. We are not related, but our families live close to each other in a small village. Similar values, similar interests, us kids are the same ages and the same classes. Kids best friends with each other. Families spent a lot of time together all through my childhood and my youth.
About 15 years ago my sibling had a big falling out with one of the children in the other family. They were young adults at the time. Really big falling out. They have not spoken to each other since then.
It was a very difficult situtaion. Despite this, our families have continued to be friends, close friends. Everyone except the two who had a falling out.
Somehow it works! It was a bit weird (very weird) the first year, but now it works out fine. I guess everyone thought the friendship of the families was important enough to keep.

But of course it is dependant on the two persons who are on non-speaking terms, that they can stand it.

I don't know what advice to give you, I just wanted to tell you about my experience.
I hope it will work out for you somehow!

I just wanted to add - hopefully your child and their cousin can become friends again! Maybe they just need some space.

What happened to cause the fall out and how old are they?