Hi all, I just want some advice on whether I should stop a relationship with my mum or not. She has always been a narcissistic controlling mother who liked a drink but now we’ve established she is alcohol dependent and I think if she was anyone else and not my mother I wouldn’t have a relationship with them or spend time with them.
I have always had a fractured relationship with her and I’ve got children of my own which is the only reason I am speaking to her now because my other half encouraged me to remain in contact with her, when we found out about our 1st I wasn’t talking to her.
She has recently began staying with us after her house sold and I’ve noticed that the drinking is not just a social drink situation, she works from home and she is drinking 4/5 glasses a day and not saying anything. I’ve only just noticed this and I am concerned that she has been driving my children around and babysitting them etc. for months.
she is narcissistic and controlling in her behaviour at the best of times and she has either always had a drink and that is why her personality sucks or her personality just sucks.
for example she has no boundaries with my children as in she is always pushing them with me and I don’t think she is safe to be around them. She is certainly not driving them around or being their primary carer now we know..
She bought dinner for tonight without consulting me, I was going to order pizza then I heard her shout dinner was here. I came down and asked her what she had bought because earlier she said she didn’t like pizza but food was here. She has only gone and ordered Indian knowing I don’t like it and when I said not to sound ungrateful but I don’t like Indian she said don’t be silly I’ve been cooking since you were 4 years old. I’ve not lived with her since I was 13.
I’m losing the will to live and I know regardless of the alcohol that my mother as a person is just not someone I like which is saddening.