Yes, it's pathetic but I could cry.. . .

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I was going out with some dear girlfriends tomorrow night. In fact, we were all going round to one house to eat and drink and chat and have a laugh.

It would have been the first time for me to go out socially in a year without the children.

DH was going to look after the children. Now he tells me he's got to work the weekend.

I know I'm BU and I should be sympathetic and supportive but I was so looking forward to hanging out, doing nothing in particular, chatting, drinking wine, eating lots and lots of food without having to tend to wakeful children. I can't believe how much it meant to me.

Sorry. Trivial cr*p but I'm upset!

YANBU!! unless it is life or death, surely he could have asked someone else to work, or given more notice to you.. is there anyone who can babysit?

No I get upset when I have a night out planned and then cant go

Is there anyone you could get to babysit for you

Oh, that is awful. No wonder youare disappointed. I would insist he cancels work or could the girls postpone until next week for you?

He's the only one in his dept. And a deal needs to completed by Weds. And he has no choice. DH is a great DH and he wouldn't do this unless he had to. But I've got nobody to vent my spleen on now!

can't they come round to you?

it is upsetting, but at least he is not blowing you out for going out with his mates.. can the girls come to your house instead?

Nope, I totally understand. DH was supposed to take DD out all day to give me a break but is feeling poorly. I know I should be sympathetic but I am gutted!

Any chance you could get a babysitter?

You are upset because you have been so grown up and reasonable about having no time to yourself for SO LONG. I hate it when this happens to me. Was your dh apologetic?

I thought of that but I live miles out of London - they're all London still. I've not got the room to put them up. Drat it. Never mind. I've come off the boil now.

Thank you for sympathy.

can you treat youself to take out, wine , choc and DVD tomorrow night

Is the house budget too tight to allow for a babysitter? There must be someone you can get recommended by a friend of a friend.

YANBU - What is so important that your DH has to work the Weekend?

YANBU - I face this often and wind myself up more asking - if HE was going out would HE have changed the plans. grrrrrr. Feel for you.

YANBU. But you are being a bit crap. Book yourself a baby sitter, woman! If you don't know anyone, google Sitters.