Currently separating from husband and we are going to do 50/50 custody split. He has said he will absolutely not accept anything less. He has been emotionally abusive for a number of years including to our children. He has given them the silent treatment for not not attending clubs to the point my son said to me the other day that he was worries about telling his dad when he wasn't feeling well because he will still make him play football.
Anyway my husband has sent me a message to say Christmas is absolutely not negotiable and the kids will be staying in their home for all of Xmas eve and Xmas day and I am welcome to join for as much as I want.
He is staying in the family home as he won't leave and I have gone to my Mums. He is using language like primary residence.
AIBU to think this is completely unreasonable and will a court see if this way. I am willing to share Xmas with him but worried about his threats.