To think there’s no point anymore

[Headmassage]

I’m just over it.

I’ve arranged a nice day for myself, a trip to the theatre, arrive early for lunch beforehand, go to the book market after, go home.
im going through a tough time, I’m not sleeping, it’s 5am and I haven’t slept, didn’t sleep yesterday, and haven’t slept now.
i feel this is all for nothing, and now I can’t go and enjoy this special day I’ve arranged as I’ll have a migraine and won’t be able to function.

im trying my best going through all that I am right now, I’m 30 and holding on, and I just wonder what is this for.

if I don’t go I’ll have wasted my money on my theatre ticket and the train tickets but I just feel so ill and over it.

what should I do please? I don’t feel like going anymore tbh. I’m can’t sleep and need to be up by 11 or so latest

You've got time to fall asleep again, get up eat and drink and fall asleep on the sofa and set an alarm.
I've learned how you deal with sleep deprivation is all in the mind. I have a 2yo but in the 1st year of their life I was often very sleep deprived but I wanted to make the most of the good times because they were memory making and would lead to opportunities/experiences that would benefit us both,such as making new friends/ gaining confidence/ new skill etc....
I don't like living with "what if's" so I'd always prefer to do things then suffer the torment of "I wish I had/what if I just..."....experiences always make you richer, staying at home under the covers doesn't...
If you have a migraine that's different you physically can't move...but sounds like you mean headache?

Do you know why you’re not sleeping?

I agree with the getting up and trying to fall asleep on the sofa watching tv. It often works for me when I can’t sleep. You could still get some sleep in. I sympathise I’ve had insomnia on and off for twenty plus years.

Agree with falling asleep on the sofa- but put your phone away otherwise you’ll just keep scrolling.
Set an alarm first.

Please do try and have your day out - if t could be just what you need xx

Another chronic insomniac here. You got loads of time to nod back off. Get up, make a brew. Do you have a banana? The tryptophan sometimes helps me nod off.
Get comfortable in a different bed and just relax.
Then get up and get on with your day. Of course, if you do develop a migraine then come home but you don't know that you'll definitely have one so give it a chance. I do know that worrying about sleep won't help you sleep. Even resting now is a close second to a sleep so just relax and rest your body.

Also, have you tried putting a podcast on and set a timer for it to turn off after half an hour? Usually works like a dream for me.
Maybe buy some Nytol (blue ones) while you're out later.

I hope you are getting some sleep and manage to go today. Moving forward I would make an appointment with your doctor. Not sleeping sounds like torture.

Bath or shower. Shortish sleep with two alarms. You're fabulous at self-care, as shows in the day you've planned. Be gentle, don't have a go at yourself if everything isn't quite perfect.

Also hoping you are asleep… sounds like you need some good self care. That’s a lot of pressure you have on yourself to experience a good time. Can you break it down into chunks? All that would give me a migraine. Maybe forego the theatre - too much concentrating if sleep deprived - and have a leisurely lunch & peek in book market?

Poor you! I suffer similarly. Really rubbish sleep, especially if emotional upsets have gone on.

Have a good day..

Have you seen your GP? It's clear lack of sleep is caused by something else so no matter how many tips you're given to get back to sleep you will struggle to do it.

It's one small thing at a time. First step, have you got up and had breakfast at kitchen table?

@Headmassage what did you decide to do today/yesterday....I can't sleep tonight now 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hey, it was really tough waking up after 4.5h sleep. I really wasn’t going to go. But I did and I had a really great time. Thank you for your kindness, and everyone’s comments.
i think what I’m going through in life is affecting my sleep, but when I do an exercise class and when I was tired out from the day yday I slept fine.
I’ll be seeing the doctor tomorrow. Did you get to sleep?

Glad you are going to see the doctor tomorrow. HRT has helped in my case but I’m sure if you have other stuff going on the doctor will assist.

I'm so glad you went out and had a good time in the end.

I think with insomnia - I speak from experience - everything seems bleakest when you've been awake for hours like that. So when you're still awake at 5am, you feel like you absolutely cannot face doing what you'd planned. But then somehow, even if you only get an hour of sleep, your plans seem appealing again.

If you're really struggling to sleep night after night, it is worth going to the doctor, so I'm glad you're seeing your GP.

when I do an exercise class and when I was tired out from the day yday I slept fine

That's interesting - I definitely, definitely sleep better when I'm exercising regularly.

Hope you are all right OP. Another of people struggling like yourself just now, hang in there.

Great news @Headmassage yay! I've learned I need to be both physically and mentally tired to sleep well but too much mental load can also cause insomnia xxx

And not really unless you count falling back to sleep at 5am after being woken by 2yo at 1am as she cried as she simply just rolled over into a new position in her cot, to then be woken up at 6.30 by her for the day 😴 xx

I'm so pleased you got to enjoy your day. How are you feeling today?

Sigh,I’m feeling crap tbh. Didn’t sleep well again 4hours, didn’t fall asleep until 5.30am :/

I had a doc appt today, she was useless.
Think I’m going to look into Nytol

Have you tried taking a sedating antihistamine when it gets really bad? I do that from time to time and it does help. Boots have some called Sleepeaze.

Insomnia is horrific.

@Headmassage did the doctor not offer a full blood test?