GettingbMRI results. Person there to support me reaction to results

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Had a mri on my spine as I have been getting tingling down my leg and twitching. The results show my disk has protruded into my nerve sac thingie and calcified but not touching a nerve. It's clearly indenting quite deep and about 3-5mm from putting direct contact pressure on my never running inside my spine. If it touches I will need a operation or risk it wearing away at the nerve. Possibly loosing all function below it.

I asked dh what he thought as he came with me for the results. He said he was worried that it might be happening to him.

What do make of that reaction?

It would really piss me off. This is exactly what my H would say, I can never have anything wrong without him having it too. He even claimed to be having sympathy pains when I was having Braxton Hicks.

If it was me I'd be telling him clearly that it's me with the diagnosis and need of support, not him, and you'll listen to his concerns about his own back when he's seen a doctor. FFS, men!

Glad it's just not me who is thinking wtaf? It might be happening to him, but it was definitely happening to me. He never complains of back pain forget any symptoms of pinched nerves. I'm beginning to think he's got a personality disorder but he wasn't like this say 15 years ago.

It's like he's had a brain transplant or a mini stroke. His personality has totally changed. However point out any REAL medical issues ( very overweight very stiff and unfit, high blood pressure he gets defensive) he will work on the blood pressure, diet etc layer.

No comment on his reaction he's a dick
But if you have to have the surgery, don't worry. My disc calcified, tented the sac and I developed cauda equina and had surgery

What an idiot.
I hope this isn't a predictor of the support you're going to get from him.

He's an asshole. Have you spoken to him about needing more support?

I had a relative like this - any symptoms or tests anyone around them had they would take themselves off to the doctor claiming they had the same symptoms and have the same tests - they were always ok. I think it’s probably a mix of trying to get the attention back onto them or hypochondria which amounts to the same thing really!
I hope you have someone else you can confide in because your DH sounds useless.

He sounds like a disappointment.
Do you really want to live with someone like that until one of you dies?

"Why do you feel the need to make it all about you, Peter? IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU"

I'm inclined to not tell him / take him to any other appointments. I have to see the gp this Friday about a pain in my armpit. I haven't told him. If I get reffered to the breast clinic I won't tell him then either.

I just can't figure put where it comes from? Geniune no interest in me or being self absorbed. I just don't think he feels empathy.

He has always lacked depth of character but I'm not sure if this is the rose tinted glasses coming off and he has always been a dick or he's getting more self absorbed as he gets older.

If I needed a operation on my spine right next to my spinal cord you could bet your life it would effect him more. He got pity from my best friend when I had our first born as he got no sleep that night. People indulge that kind of nonsense

That would fuck me off

That was very unhelpful and odd of him to say. I would tell him how you felt. You need supporting, not this strange behaviour.

Does he drink a lot? (He's a self-absorbed shit either way)

What a selfish pig! I think possibly he's always been like this from what you've said, and unfortunately these traits do tend to get worse in men as they get older. I hope you have someone else who will be supportive if you do need surgery OP. He really is a prick!

Dick move by your DH what a Prince.