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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask if you find your own babies boring or if nature makes them interesting so the long and repetitive stuff is more tolerable

98 replies

ForestGoblin · 22/08/2023 09:17

They take SO long to drink a bottle of milk

They have a limitless capacity for interest in putting blocks through holes again and again

Their chat is non existent

The physicality of keeping them safe and clean is so repetitive

I have adhd so I am a wimp when it comes to boredom but then so do lots of mums and everyone seems to cope fine

So, if I had a hypothetical baby, would it be less boring than I fear?

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Mummy08m · 22/08/2023 11:56

I'm currently preparing my dd for what it's like to have a newborn baby brother and she's asking can I play frisbee with him? Will he like ice cream/cheese/pasta? I hate to break it to her but the answer is pretty much always "not for ages". I can just picture her meeting him for the first time and being like "can he do anything?!" And tbf I wouldn't blame her. To begin with babies can't even smile, they really give nothing back initially!

I do like the wide-eyed phase though where they gaze around with a permanent look of astonishment. I can't remember when that starts, maybe about 1-2 months.

Johnisafckface · 22/08/2023 12:03

Samlewis96 · 22/08/2023 10:15

I must say I preferred mine as teenagers more than a y other stage. Even though DD1was a complete little shit By then they had their own friends interests and opinions making them more interesting to spend time with and I felt we had stuff in common by the

This. I hated the baby stage and barely tolerated the toddler phase. When she got old enough to play out with her friends it got better but I loved when she was a teen. We could talk and do things together that we both could have fun doing.

Poblano · 22/08/2023 12:07

I have 3. The early baby stage was mind numbingly boring, I disliked just doing things to them with little two way interaction. It got better as they got older. Toddlers were much more interesting than babies. They are now teenagers or grown up and I enjoy this age far more than when they were small.

itsallnewnow · 22/08/2023 14:16

Yes, weirdly, I'm bored rigid by other people's kids but find my own totally fascinating and can spend 10 minutes staring just at her eyelashes 😂🙈

HoppyOne · 22/08/2023 14:17

Babies aren’t just dull they are also simultaneously very demanding.

RosemaryDill · 22/08/2023 14:26

I suppose it was a bit repetitive but I was so in awe of them I didn't care. I still am 27 years later.
However I have zero interest in any other baby or child, never did before my own and even less so now.

TarquinOliverNimrod · 22/08/2023 14:29

Other people’s babies are quite boring. Sweet, but boring

My baby is endlessly fascinating. He’s the most interesting person I’ve ever met 😊

Changing nappies, etc. is dull, dull, dull

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/08/2023 14:33

I have ADHD and the baby stage was interminable.

However, every stage after that is brilliant. DD also has ADHD and so I have a random little adventurous friend to explore with. Every now and again she sees a squirrel mid-thought and actually says SQUIRREL. It's brilliant.

LuluBlakey1 · 22/08/2023 14:33

ForestGoblin · 22/08/2023 09:17

They take SO long to drink a bottle of milk

They have a limitless capacity for interest in putting blocks through holes again and again

Their chat is non existent

The physicality of keeping them safe and clean is so repetitive

I have adhd so I am a wimp when it comes to boredom but then so do lots of mums and everyone seems to cope fine

So, if I had a hypothetical baby, would it be less boring than I fear?

I found it astonishing that DS1 could entertain himself for ages emptying and re-filling a box of soft toys, small wooden building bricks.
I found him interesting but not exciting. I found DD and DS2 very dull having seen it all before. But because they are mine I was just as proud of e everything they learned. They all made me laugh.

DH is engrossed by their every move and word. He adores all 3 of them and has endless patience with them.

youveturnedupwelldone · 22/08/2023 14:41

My own baby was the most interesting thing in the entire universe to me.

Other people's babies - when I had a baby myself, quite interesting (not as interesting as mine tho 😆)

Other people's babies now that stage is loooong gone for me - very boring indeed.

Am genuinely Intrigued to see where my future grandchildren fit in to this!

pelargoniums · 22/08/2023 14:41

I find the repetitive nature of the days on maternity SO boring, especially as both children thrived on a routine and slept/ate/behaved like shit if I went with the flow and had any fun.

So currently it’s up, nappy, milk, play while we make breakfast, clear up breakfast, nap, milk, class, lunch, milk, nap while I clear up lunch, play, milk playground, dinner, play, bath, milk, bedtime EVERY FUCKING DAY AND IT IS A SISYPHEAN NIGHTMARE OF DULLNESS. Occasionally enlivened by a new tooth so at least you get to add Calpol to the task list, a change is as good as a rest.

But him, the actual baby? God, he’s just the nicest, happiest, chubbiest, cleverest, roly-polyest astonishingly nicest fat babboo that there ever was and I could eat him up, every day. I love every fat inch of him when he kisses me and cuddles me and does that weird thing where they squeeze your upper arm over and over again with their claw fingers; his smile is wonderful. Do I also live for his lunchtime nap and the evening after he goes to bed, so I can read a book and use my brain for something that isn’t Wind the Bobbin Up? Good god, yes.

I think Judith Kerr said small children are interesting and boring in equal measure. It’s fun seeing a baby see something new and you realise that everything in the world is as fresh as a fish if it’s the first time you’re seeing it: the bin lorry! A supermarket! A swimming pool! A cardboard box! And as they get bigger they’re still discovering, and they tell you things, including jokes. But it is also very boring wiping bums and going “oh yes what an interesting sea creatures fact from Octonauts” and “gosh, yes, I’m watching you hop”. It’s both at the same time. The good outweighs the bad, for me, and even on the most stupefying day one of them does something hilarious and lovely or you hug them and smell them and it’s like nothing on earth.

Charrington · 22/08/2023 14:45

Cleaning the same 3m sq of wall and floor four or five times a day during the weaning phase broke me.

mindutopia · 22/08/2023 14:47

They are unfortunately pretty boring.

peachgreen · 22/08/2023 14:51

I don't think I found it boring but I definitely found it exhausting. I hated the baby stage. Adore the toddler and preschool and early school stages though. DD is nearly 6 now and I adore hanging out with her.

Mercibuckets · 22/08/2023 14:55

I got funding for a PHD during 1st maternity leave as I was worried about being bored. I was so stupid. Of course my baby was fascinating- more fascinating than those other babies - goodness I felt sorry for those other poor mothers. Never did the PHD never got bored. High on oxytocin for 3 years. DC 2/3 equally wonderful and fascinating.

long past babyhood and I concede other people’s children are wonderful too (!) and always volunteer to hold babies so new mothers can eat or listen to staff back to maternity leave talk about first steps etc.

Star0Fire · 22/08/2023 17:45

I'd say it wasn't so bad. Not compared to my AS 4yo who talks in repeat all day, repeating sentences he's read or heard. I hear the same Halloween joke 10 times a day, did you know sharks are an amazing fish, they don't have any bones blah blah x100 a day. "Does it sink or float? " playing with bath toys in the bath. If I don't reply it's a constant "does Itsink or float? Does it sink or float? Does it sink or float mommy? " me SINK yes it sinks *next toy
Does it sink or float? Does it sink or float?

😶

So I'd say babies are okay! You can watch your own tv shows/own music/scroll on phone with a baby. Plus they nap!! A 4 year old, not so much!

KohlaParasaurus · 22/08/2023 17:56

I found my own babies fascinating to the smallest detail. But when I was a child myself I found my little sisters fascinating to the point of obsession, then was really interested in neighbours' babies, loved the babies and children aspect of my job, and still have almost endless tolerance for other people's small children.

CommonVetch · 22/08/2023 17:59

Oh it is so boring. But oxytocin is VERY a powerful antidote. I was utterly entranced by my dc when they were tiny. The videos I took of them blinking and gurning! Even they don't want to watch them.

MissPettigrewIsWFH · 22/08/2023 18:03

Mind numbingly boring. And my oxytocin was clearly on the blink. I remember volunteering to take the dead mice out of the traps rather than endure another half an hour a day of nothing but BABY.

I prefer them when they can talk.

Miragelifeguard · 22/08/2023 18:06

I was completely fascinated by my babies, could have (and did) watched them for hours and hours. Everything they did seemed amazing.
Other people’s babies? Tedious!
Nature is so clever!

Twinsforthewin · 22/08/2023 18:11

Have twins, you never have a moment to think about the boredom, you're busy all the time with a side of existential fear (did they just ... Eat that magnet?)

They're way more fun now they're four

Overall it is worth it

cocksstrideintheevening · 22/08/2023 18:33

Babies are boring. With mine I obviously loved them and wanted to keep them alive but Christ that first year with DTs was just Groundhog Day.

I have zero interest in other people's babies.

user1471556818 · 22/08/2023 18:36

Luckily babies become less boring as they get older .Thank goodness. I've never understood folks who love that baby stage .

Doone21 · 23/08/2023 16:15

Yes boring. That's why nurseries exist staffed by angels that never tire of playing peek a boo, they should all get double pay

Icannoteven · 23/08/2023 16:19

I found my babies fascinating but not the domestic tasks associated with keeping them alive. I loved holding them, watching them, feeding them, teaching them new things etc but the nappies, cleaning, laundry, scheduling etc was grim. Drove me out of my tree. I was not made for domesticity. - I think I should have been a dad.