To run away ?

[Mitsouko67]

Adult child just diagnosed with enduring mental health condition.
DH means well but is useless.
He is obsessed by his creative occupation Which Pays no Bills.🙄
Not much emotional support.
Leaving everything to me.
I am breadwinner currently on long term sick leave, due back this autumn/winter.
Other DC are neurodiverse as is DH.

I do everything and it just isn't fair.

AIBU to run away to a remote island for a few weeks?

Have tried all the usual conversations, counselling etc,
no joy.

I’m not sure that he means well if he’s not doing anything helpful. He sounds mainly like he’s enjoying his life and leaving everything else for you to sort.

Yes, that's exactly it.

I think maybe I am not BU.

Have started looking into travel possibilities...hoping to go soon.

Get a divorce, you'll be on a permanent holiday from the useless DH.

No but you might find yourself in difficulty by apparently going on a long holiday (which is what yours describing rather than running away) while on long term sick leave.

Sound like the bigger picture needs addressing, why can't your husband work (a paying job) for example.

Well it's got worse. He has spent half an inheritance he received on shoring up his business and been very deceitful in how he went about it.

A divorce wouldn't suit me.

I'm going on a 3 week trip.
My Dr is fine with it.

I have realised I am married to a narcissist who won't change.