I’ve got two wonderful DCs aged 5&2
I’ve not long had another MC, which I have actually recovered quite well physically and emotionally from, especially compared to previous experiences.
I had 2 MCs before DC1 and 2 more between DC1 & 2. Serious complications with both myself and baby during second successful pregnancy. Previous MCs left me with severe anxiety bordering on agoraphobia. I am in a really good place now but it took a lot of hard work to get there.
with my latest MC I was told we don’t qualify for any sort of investigation because you have to have three in a row and in the doctors words “seeing as you already have two living children I’d be surprised if there was an issue… if there was you’d have none” which I get but it was hard to hear.
I have a really supportive DH and have been studying for a career change which is going really well. A few years in after stops and starts I love my job and am progressing really well, I really look forward to going in every day and my work life balance is fab. Now my children are a bit older I even have time for hobbies and am on a sports team.
I just feel on one hand that it would be good emotionally/physically for me to not put myself through any TTC or pregnancy stuff for a while and focus on the new career. I am doing well right now but I’m not sure I would cope as well with another loss. Maybe move house and enjoy a bit more space. And then TTC in a couple of years, maybe even not TTC for a third child and learn to be content with two.
But on the other hand it feels like just giving up and I feel really rotten for it. I’m not a natural risk taker so consider I could just be over anxious. And DH really wants another child.
Also worried about waiting and then it never happening and regretting it.
feeling really conflicted and would appreciate some input from someone not emotionally invested in it.
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