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Overwhelmed23 · 21/08/2023 09:31

Am I being unreasonable or more accurately weird? To want someone to tell me exactly how much of everything you should have in your home and then get rid of the rest? I'm suspected neuro diverse and I feel like I want to be told what stays in my home.

Probably (almost certainly) won't be the magic wand I'm after. Neither was buying a new shed or a million and one plastic boxes. I'm at a loss as to how I can tackle this now. Both of my parents hoard. I don't want to get out of control like them. They have a miserable time in their homes.

Ive slowly been swallowed by my stuff and having tried so many times to get out, I just feel overwhelmed and stressed when I try to get rid of things.

I've even considered how I wish the whole house would burn down (not with anyone in it of course) so all the stuff would be gone and we could start again. Of course that's an awfully drastic feeling as things that actually are precious such as photos would be lost. It's just an example of how lost and desperate it makes me feel. I dream of a new house so I can take what I want and nothing else. I'd walk away from my things just can't send them away - how strange is that?!

I've reasoned with myself over and over about how the "stuff" isn't important and how it doesn't matter what things cost (we are not hard up).

Tried to feel better about giving the items to charity etc.

I just have a mental block. Sometimes with items that I would tell someone else to throw out.

I feel hopeless. In fact I'm sat on my bed now, procrastinating, having taken just 4 items from my wardrobe to send away.

Please be kind.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 21/08/2023 09:32

If you e not used it in the last 12 months throw it out.

Overwhelmed23 · 21/08/2023 09:33

Like how many cups glasses etc is reasonable. How many pens should be in pen box? I bet it isn't near on 100. Should I have clothes my kids grew out of over 10 years ago under my bed "to sell"?!

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TheInterceptor · 21/08/2023 09:44

I have two rules for 'stuff':

  1. The Christmas decorations rule (anything that hasn't been used in 12 months goes).
  1. Does it fit into one of three categories - sentimental/practical/aesthetic. If not, it goes.
SandyBoffFace · 21/08/2023 11:31

Overwhelmed23 · 21/08/2023 09:33

Like how many cups glasses etc is reasonable. How many pens should be in pen box? I bet it isn't near on 100. Should I have clothes my kids grew out of over 10 years ago under my bed "to sell"?!

For your example of the glasses... As many as will fit in your home comfortably.
My 1st house had a tiny kitchen with only 3 cupboards. We had 4 glasses for soft drinks and 4 wine glasses. They fit on half a shelf

Now we live in a larger house with a bigger kitchen and more cupboards. I have 2 cupboards for glasses. I have 4 wine goblets, 6 normal wine glasses, 12 crystal wine glasses, 6 pint glasses, 6 tall glasses for soft drinks, 6 short glasses for soft drinks, 6 whiskey glasses, 12 crystal Collins glasses, 6 martini glasses, and a large jug.

The kids clothes you're holding onto to sell... What are they worth? If you're going to make hundreds on them because they're unworn designer brands with tags still attached, then sell them. If they're well worn from primark, then take them to the charity shop today. Your time is worth more than they are.

Don't think about doing everything. Just pick one thing to sort. Like today, try all your 100 pens and throw away any that look scruffy, don't work or that don't feel nice to write with

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