Do I sound weird??

[Londoncalling9]

Hi

I’ve recently qualified in my job after an intense 18 months of supervision, exams and clinical tests. I’ve had the same supervisor for the duration of it- at times she’s been very tough-love in her approach and at times has seemed slightly harsh but she has always fair and she taught me so many important lessons- both about the job and believing in myself too. I was going to get a thank you card but wanted her to realise how much she has helped me even as a person (not just a clinician) so was thinking of putting something along the lines of ‘thank you for everything you’ve taught me about the job and most of all thank you for helping me learn to believe in myself’ does that sound ok? I don’t want to seem soppy or weird or make her embarrassed if it’s a bit too personal and maybe it would be better just saying ‘thanks for all your help and for everything you’ve taught me’ like most people would, but does it sound ok to say ‘thanks for helping me believe in myself’? obviously I’ve learned how to do my job properly from her but to me the most important thing she taught me was to believe in myself and my own abilities and I want to let her know I’m grateful for this

im a bit tired and overthinking like mad, so just looking for a 2nd opinion! Does this sound ok to you?

Which is probably the reason why you never have or will.
OP there is nothing inappropriate about that sentiment. If you want to toughen it up a little
"Your encouragement and constructive feedback helped me gain the confidence I need for the role." shifts the focus to what she did rather than your emotions.

I am 56 and have mentored several young women joining my profession. I would definitely (have done) appreciate a message like that.

I do like the PP’s suggestion as a way of focussing on her acts rather than your reactions. Either message would be fine. More than.

If she has taught you to believe in yourself, then have confidence in the message you want to write! It sounds like you’re still doubting the smallest things. Stop it!

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Don't worry, I don't think you'll ever be receiving one.

I'm sure it will mean a lot, OP. I always try to take the time to send a card to say thank you to people or when someone has gone out of their way for me, as I think it's just such a nice thing to receive.

@Tara24 I did. read it all (both) and I don’t think I misunderstood.

There is no assumption here that all women are unconfident. The OP definitely is. I agree we should not assume all women are not confident but don’t agree about not taking about confidence in the workplace.

It's really lovely, OP. Do send it.

God some people on here are bloody awful!

OP that’s a lovely message that most ‘normal’ people would love to receive and have their heart warmed reading it!

Nope, it’s lovely! I’d be thrilled to receive that. And she can use it for her next revalidation! Win win.