To be offended by what my friend said?

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I was talking to a (male) friend of mine about a man that I am interested in. The first and only thing he said was "what if he doesn't want a yummy mummy?".

I have a 4 year old DS with my ex. DS is with me five nights of the week.

I'm aware that many men aren't interested/are put off by single mothers. But why point it out? Why was that the only thing he said?

He said why am I pointing out the negative when it's not even negative, and that he still said "yummy". I haven't replied yet.

I'm probably being over sensitive but I don't like being made to feel like less than, or like there's something wrong with me because I have a child.

AIBU? What do I say?

Very prepared to be told I am BU!

It does seem a rather negative response. He could have said anything. Pretty unsupportive comment. I don’t think yabu to feel let down by that comment, but probably no need to hold it against him forever either.
Might he be a teensy bit jealous of the idea of you in a relationship?

To be fair it sounds like he is being realistic and probably phrased it badly.

If you are texting about a man you are interested in, you must really quite like him. If this person is a good friend (I assume they are as you were talking to them) they may have been concerned you would get hurt. He may have thought you were running away with yourself.

Plenty of people don’t want to get involved with people who have kids. Plenty aren’t bothered.

it all depends on wether this person is actually a good friend.

No that's a really shitty comment!

It was an unwarranted negative comment. Stop talking to him about relationships full stop.

No idea how people can defend it. If you said you were going for a job and the first response was "What if they think you're not qualified?" people would correctly identify the put down.

Life is sad enough without friends bringing up potentially negative outcomes as a 'favour' to you.

If he doesn't want to date a woman with a child, he won't date a woman with a child. By the same measure, he might not want to date a woman who has blonde hair, who works as a teacher, who doesn't speak Czech, who is x or isn't y. People have all sorts of dealbreakers. If your "friend" doesn't know the guy in question, he has no basis to judge. Maybe the guy really likes children and wishes he could have had one. The friend doesn't know.

It's an unnecessary and uncalled for 'clipping of your wings'. The "yummy mummy" phrasing is creepy and sounds fetishistic.