Hello
I posted a few weeks ago but again just want to check in. So my husband has been using credit cards he racked up 15 000 or so he said ( I know it be more now). He said it had gone on us and the children. He needed it whilst I was on maternity leave I Paid my share of the bills for 6 months and gave him all my statuary pay for the other 3 so we only had 3 months without. We got married during this time but I did contribute some towards this and checked in all the time about money for this he said it was fine, he has his own business so his income fluctuates to what he can take. I had no idea this amount was on credit cards. This wouldn't of totalled the £15,000 anyway. We borrowed £5 000 from my mum which I thought was for the wedding and that to my knowledge was it as we had paid most bits prior. This ended up on numerous cards with silly rates and he said it was me too and that he isnstuck with all this and it was spent on me. I consolidated them all into a loan in my name. Lower interest rate and share the monthly payments now.
I found out a few weeks ago after making it clear I wanted no more debt that he has since I consolidated at Christmas got another £20,000 possibly more this is loans and credit cards. I have asked so many times if he has anymore. He had more when I consolidated and lied saying that was it. He took a loan out 6 weeks after me consolidating he is now saying again its gone on bills ( I am back working so pay to the bills and kids). I have now separated and he is saying I am pathetic to want a divorce over this and no one else would that I spend all night thinking it over and coming up with different things in my head to what is true and that I only see it as black and white.
Am I right? I can't work out if I am over reacting I feel so confused as he seems to make me feel bad like this is my fault.
Thanks