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IndiKid2015 · 20/08/2023 16:11

We are a family of five, 2x shared children and one from DH’ first marriage.

DH and I formerly put the same amount of money every month into an account to cover household expenses. I earn more so I paid all nursery fees, holidays etc.

DH had some mental health issues and walked out of a job over 2 years ago. After struggling to find his way and taking on lots of debt, he now has a job that he loves but it’s seasonal. While good for his mental health and I want him to be happy, there is still a family here that needs to be supported. I don’t mean with a lavish house and holidays of which we have neither, I mean living expenses like rent, bills and food, am I unreasonable to expect a regular contribution from him? Even if it’s less than it used to be, I just want/need to know where I am, is that unreasonable? We can’t talk about it without fighting.

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Lorey82 · 20/08/2023 20:08

He sounds like he’s taking the biscuit if he’s not contributing despite earning? DH and me have always put all of our earnings etc into our joint account and then allowance for personal expenses depending on what’s left

LifeExperience · 20/08/2023 20:32

He's a man with 3 children. Who need to eat. Every day. Since he loves this job, he can pick up hours in a second job to help make ends meet.

Badsox · 20/08/2023 20:45

Why are you paying nursery fees if his work is seasonal? Would you be better off with him working part time in the evenings and looking after your children/ having his son more in the day? He can only contribute half if he is in a position to earn half, but he does need to contribute to the family economy in meaningful way. You need to be happy with how that happens.

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