Should I ask him bluntly to come back

[Honeybu]

I break up with ex 4 months ago as he was doing nothing to divorce his wife after they separated for 8 years. We was together 18months. I’m a single mum he was good to my kids good to me but of course it wasn’t perfect the only big issue was the divorce as I wanted us to be married in the future and buy a house in future. Since he’s left he pleaded saying he would divorce for a week or two but nothing happens, not spoke w him for 3months. I want him back but I don’t think he want me back.

If you want him back then yes, by all means ask him to come back.

It doesn't sound as though he's going to marry you and buy a house with you though.

Have you thought about buying a house on your own?

To add i email him two weeks to assist with work related he quickly called me agreed to help and I said if we could meet for coffee to discuss what he done. He said yes we will meet this week and even he text with kisses but he still haven’t got back to me to let me know he’s completed the work and arrange date and time to meet.

Sorry but you sound a bit desperate. Actions speak louder than words. He could get divorced without your prompting if he really wanted to. Something is holding him back.

@LIZS no I’m not desperate not sure what you define as desperate. I have realise how good I had it with him and I genuinely still love him. I have been with other guys after we broke up not because it wasn’t working with others is just his qualities except he’s not divorce is what I’m looking for in a man. Now moving forward I’m looking for same qualities in my future relationship just with someone who is divorce. But what make me think the next guy there wouldn’t be no issues? I believe no one is perfect. I wanted to tell him how I feel (not expecting anything) and if he feel the same then we try again and me knowing that divorce may come when he’s ready. But the main thing I don’t want 10 years later thinking what if’s, if I try now I know I have done everything and I can and I can move on. I feel sometimes pride shouldn’t take control.

I'd cut your losses and be done with hum

Sorry but I had a look and going by your previous threads about dating etc (i looked because you mention other men in the last 4 months while still not being over this one and that is bit of a red flag) you should take some time for yourself by yourself, finish your divorce (?) and see who you are without a man. If you can't be without one, it's hard to find the right one.

He didn’t want you enough to get a divorce or give you a credible reason not to get a divorce. That’s why you sound desperate. Even if he took you back (and I’m sorry, but you read the kisses in the text as a possibility he would, I read them as a possibility he’s gone 3 months without sex) you’d be a fool to have him back.