AIBU to want to go home?

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Staying with the in laws for a few days. DH and PIL have very causal thing where we go stay but no one specifies how long for

They live in a small 2 bed flat and it's horribly hot. Like 26 degrees in the flat at night. Me, DH and 2 DC (3 and 5) are in one room (one king sized bed). Everyone is sleeping v poorly. FIL is unwell and keeps falling asleep everywhere and just trying to get away from the kids (understandable but impossible as flat is small). There is no outside space. DS (5) wants to go home and is moaning at me every hour - he hates change

We have been here 3 days. I feel its time to go back home. DH saying I'm selfish and MIL only sees us 4 times a year but itd so claustrophobic. DH wants to stay for the rest of the weekend and go back Sunday night.

AIBU to want to leave? Should I just shut up for the sake of DH and MIL?

I wouldn’t have gone in the first place.

Sounds like a bit if a nightmare tbh, but it’s only one more day. Are you sure you r EA log can’t manage it? Maybe take the kids out for the day.

DH and PIL have very causal thing where we go stay but no one specifies how long for

DH and his parents used to have this, too. In reality it meant nobody was settled because nobody knew what was happening.

Three days staying with them in a flat feels like long enough, to me... Have you got things planned in the daytime?

I think my options would be that you rent somewhere nearby for tonight; and go do something today (if FIL is well enough); or that you go home this afternoon/evening. That way you can still do something today, and it won't feel too sudden to your PILs, but you're not stuck there for too much longer.

I wouldn't be going back to stay for more than a night in future; either. It seems unfair to FIL, and to your children. It's absolutely insane to plan for four people to sleep in the same bed. They live in a small flat, they can't host the four of you. If you're going to stay over, you need alternate accommodation.

DH and PIL have very causal thing where we go stay but no one specifies how long for

Well, that in itself is ridiculous, especially when you’ve got kids. You need to know what’s happening and so do they. How can you plan and pack when you’ve no idea whether you’re going to be there for two days or a week? What are you doing every day? Are you going for days out or just cooped up together?

All four of you in one bed, in summer, with no outside space, and your poor FIL just wanting a bit peace while he’s unwell? What enjoyment is anyone actually getting out of this, including your MIL? Do not agree to stay until Sunday. It’s not fair on the kids. Surely your MIL has noticed that they’re fed up and moaning?

Your MIL and DH need to understand that there isn’t room in PILs’ flat to have a family of four to stay. It’s not fair on anyone.