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Late for work due to training - who is at fault?

41 replies

Scurrrt · 18/08/2023 17:42

I attended workplace training this morning - plan was training would be 9am-11am and then I’d be back at work for 11:30 (I work in community and the first job back was pretty time sensitive).

Anyway during the training someone ripped a chunk out of a little foam thing and lobbed it behind the chairs. When the trainer asked for it back nobody knew where it was until it was soon found on the floor with a chunk ripped out of it. Nobody would admit to doing it. As a result the training ran over, I tried to say I had to be back at work and was told it’s highly suspicious when people are suddenly desperate to leave after such an incident!! I text work to say I was stuck at training and received a reply saying “you have to get there on time, short staffed, nobody else can go”. I showed text to trainer, she reluctantly let me go but said she’d be passing the incident on to the manager. I was 20 minutes late. I got it in the neck of course. Should I have just walked out and let them think it was me that ripped the thing?

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Fivethirtyeight · 18/08/2023 17:44

Need a bit more info on why the trainer had authority over you or whether this was just a service provider.

If the trainer had authority then your manager should blame the trainer.

Of not then you should have walked out.

Testina · 18/08/2023 17:46

Actually I think you are still at fault here because only one of 3 people (you, your manager, your trainer) had the ability to make you leave on time.

The trainer was ridiculous.
Your manager was possibly a little unfair - depending on what “in the neck” really equates to. If it was sternly telling you that you should have left, they’re right. If it’s unprofessionally having a go at you, that’s too much.

saveforthat · 18/08/2023 17:46

WTF! Somebody damaged something amd you were all kept in late like schoolchildren? What on earth was the foam thing? What is your job? What was the training?

Oto · 18/08/2023 17:46

What on earth was going on in the session for chunks to be ripped out of things?

UsingChangeofName · 18/08/2023 17:47

I have all the same questions as @saveforthat Confused

JMSA · 18/08/2023 17:48

You needed to have left the training in time for your work.
The chair thing is inconsequential, unless you happen to be 14 years old!

Original poster
Scurrrt · 18/08/2023 17:49

It was a miniature chair

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Original poster
Scurrrt · 18/08/2023 17:49

The foam thing was a miniature chair

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saveforthat · 18/08/2023 17:52

OK I really need to know what you do and what the training was for now

Hawkins009 · 18/08/2023 17:54

Why are adults on a training session, breaking items?

Hawkins009 · 18/08/2023 17:54

What happened @Scurrrt

vodkaredbullgirl · 18/08/2023 17:55

Seriously

VivX · 18/08/2023 18:05

Surely you just leave the training to get to work if you have been told that you must be at work on time because, by the sounds of it, your work responsibilities trump the training.

But also, as per PPs, why were adults breaking things on training courses and why was the trainer behaving as though you should all be kept in for detention?

GabriellaMontez · 18/08/2023 18:06

Wtf?!

ThreeLittleDots · 18/08/2023 18:06

I presume care work.

I think you should have kept your visit time, the trainer sounds like a twat.

Againstmachine · 18/08/2023 18:08

I'd get up and leave, but that's me, but the whole situation sounds bizarre.

purplecorkheart · 18/08/2023 18:19

Bloody hell, this sounds more like something that would happen in Infants rather than adults.

I must admit though with things like this I always assume that they will overrun (admittedly mainly due to someone trying to show off and ask pointless questions rather than what happened to you) so I always talk to the presenter before he/she starts and explain that I will be leaving at x time due to work and thank them for their presentation etc.

FutureThroughLensOfThePast · 18/08/2023 18:23

Not your fault. Can't believe the childishness of the foam incident!

JudgeRudy · 18/08/2023 18:26

I'd have left when I needed to. You don't need permission. If someone had hinted at an accusation towards me I'd have made it very clear I was annoyed at this and asked for clarity.
It was a bit foolish though to expect to be out dead on time. Its quite common for these things to run over and I'd have allowed 15mins extra.

woodhill · 18/08/2023 18:26

How are you at fault

I assume the training was for work not for your leisure

LakeTiticaca · 18/08/2023 18:33

How strange but this person had no authority to detain against your will. Only the police can do that. You were at liberty to leave when you wished, and you should have done

EvilElsa · 18/08/2023 18:35

I'd have left. Who gives a shit if they "think" you ripped a bloody foam chair. You didn't, they can't prove it anyway so the situation is going nowhere. It's not highly suspicious to want to leave for work and I'd have told them that.

FutureThroughLensOfThePast · 18/08/2023 18:43

Of course, he could always have let you go and had you back in after work the next day for detention ...

Itsnotrightbutitsok · 18/08/2023 18:45

FFS why is a grown adult damaging someone else’s property and then not owning up to it.

Of course they were not to know it wasn’t you and so had to accuse everyone.

But I would have said I need to leave, showed the message and then left.
The other members probably would have blamed it on you but you didn’t really have a choice.

panko · 18/08/2023 18:46

Thats utterly ridiculous. I hope the person who did it is fired frankly. What a child. (Not you OP)