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To think h is an untalented wanky twat

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 21:45

This is a rant...I know ianbu.

We've just had a couple around who are about to have a civil partnership, and dd, who's an aspiring musician is going to play for their ceremony or reception - her first gig like this which she's doing for experience this time.

I'm also musical - grade 8 many years ago, but still play very well and enjoy practising with dd...we have fun.

H (not dh he's such a twat) just took the piss out of me not once, but twice, when I said I'd play some pieces with her if she does the reception, which will be several hours long and which will be a stretch for her existing repertoire.

He just acted like a complete fuckwit the entire evening - I've expressed my anger, he's not said sorry and is now trying to get around my by mending my broken hair straighteners.

How long should I not talk to him?

Wanker.

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LynetteScavo · 28/02/2008 21:48

What did he say, exactly?

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 21:50

He mocked me and said "no-one will want to listen to you, they'll just want to hear dd"

I was offering to play a couple of pieces with her and would have played then for the couple to hear - they could've said no. I just felt completely humiliated.

I'm now wondering if he was trying to prove his masculinity or something in the presence of a gay couple...although suggesting dd for their ceremony was his idea.

He's still a wanker.

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littlegreyrabbit · 28/02/2008 21:50

YANBU for you.
Don't talk to him til he grovels abjectly.

amytheearwaxbanisher · 28/02/2008 21:51

stay silents till you get an apology[begging for your forgivness]

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 21:53

And he can't fix my hair straighteners...offered to get me new ones for mother's day.

Told him I earn enough of my own money to buy new ones myself ...am so going to get some ghds

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LynetteScavo · 28/02/2008 22:01

I was just about to say.. he could have been trying to prove his masculinity...and he then continued to prove it by mending something.

nelliesmum · 28/02/2008 22:09

Does he do this sort of thing often, or just a one-off?

beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 22:14

they've asked your daughter, not you. Perhaps that's the problem?

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 22:14

Not often, no...most people would say he's kind and generous - which is true most of the time.

But there's also a really mean, nasty, jealous streak which is very unpleasant to behold when it surfaces.

His late mother was even worse - a right cow, and I think some of it rubbed off.

What pisses me off the most on this occasion is that he's completely and utterly unmusical..can't sing to save his life and couldn't play a note on any instrument.

Wanker

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 22:16

They didn't actually ask to begin with...h volunteered her.

I was offering (to them) that I could play a couple of pieces with her...I would have added if they wanted me to, but could say no to that...they haven't decided if they want her at the reception (several hours) or just the ceremony (half an hour or so, which would be on her own).

But I didn't get that far...he butted in, very rudely.

I didn't say anything more in front of them or dd...but dd remarked on what a prat he'd been after they went.

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Divastrop · 28/02/2008 22:18

could he have been,in a rather insensitive way,trying to tell you that maybe dd wanted to do it all by herself,or that the couple only wanted your dd to play?i mean,did you just say you would also play or did the couple/your dd ask you to?

Divastrop · 28/02/2008 22:20

d'oh,x-posts

do speak to him though,even if its just to tell him hes a rude twat.ignoring is infantile and nasty and you would be stooping to his level

mehdismummy · 28/02/2008 22:26

lol at the thread title. Words have not been invented that describe my h yet. Perhaps he is jealous?

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 22:31

I have spoken to him...to tell him how demeaned and insulted I felt.

Now I'm just furiously typing into the laptop...better wipe the internet history later.

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 22:32

And yes, I think he was jealous. Perhaps a bit threatened by a houseful of women, at least two of whom are gay.

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lateylate · 28/02/2008 22:33

The third might well become me if he carries on.

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moondog · 28/02/2008 22:41

V. impressed by your Grade 8 status may I say.

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lateylate · 29/02/2008 10:44

Aye thank you moondog [taking a bow icon]

Dh has now apologised, but nowhere near enough grovelling yet.

He also apologised to dd for being such a pratface - imo there was some very gender-related going on last night - jealousy of the female bonding going on or something.

I am still with him, and will be going off to buy v. expensive hair straighteners this afternoon.

Any product recommendations anyone?(will post on products too) Are GHDs the best? The Babyliss Pro ones I had last time only lasted just over a year - but were only £30 (and I had dropped them a few weeks before they stopped working)

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PABLOP · 29/02/2008 11:00

GHDS are the best, I love mine.

peacelily · 29/02/2008 11:06

Go for ghds, have had mine 7 years still going strong and have frizz that the hairdresser balks at.

ib · 29/02/2008 11:25

Or you could have your hair Yukoed....vv expensive but leaves you with heavenly, no maintenance no frizz hair for about a year...bliss.

FioFio · 29/02/2008 11:30

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