When someone tries to change the date?!

[Headforeverinmyhands]

I’m trying to organise a group lunch for 10 people and I’ve picked a date and so far 7 have said yes, 2 haven’t replied yet and now 1 person has asked us to change the date.

Aibu to think it’s highly unlikely any date will work for everyone and if the majority can do q particular date then unfortunately it means you just miss out this time?

I always tell people in advance - the rules are that the organiser gets to choose the date (based on whatever they want, but majority availability is usual) and the venue. If people don't like that, they can organize the next one!

Go with what the majority can do

Imagine if you change the date for that one person and then they let you down, sorry I now can't go

You'll kick yourself

I agree OP

even in groups smaller than that it is hard to find a date that everyone can do so sometimes the best way is to pick a date and then you can either make it or you cant

Just say no this is the date

Just say no. It is cheeky to try to change the date of a big group thing.

Arrgh my DSIS always does this. YANBU people shouldn't ask the group to change the date for them it's really rude and irritating. And besides it's utterly self-centred.

I think it’s OK for them to ask, just on the off-chance, but also OK for you to say no. As you say, it’s unlikely you’d be able to find a date that works for everyone and you’ve had seven yeses so far, so it makes sense to stick with your original plan.

I do tend to offer 2 or 3 options in the first place, and see which most can do, but ultimately you have to go with the most popular.
Of course the tricky bit with offering an option is if 1 person can't do one and 1 person can't do the other - then you have to choose

But YANBU - you have to just say "Sorry, that's the date now - hopefully you'll be able to do the next meet up" and crack on. You'll never get a date within a reasonable timeframe if you wait until everyone is free.

I agree with you op.
I’ve been in situations where we haven’t gone out as one person says they can’t do the date. Nothing gets sorted.

Stick to it

If you change it and one of your yeses then can't go, you're basically saying the other person matters more

I would say in the WhatsApp group 'can you also do 20th sept as tabby is free then only? If you can't all ii'll stick to 3rd sept'

Then move it or tell tabby you're sorry you're going with th e majority hope to see her soon

This. No point sulking about her asking (you should have offered two date options in the first place) just do what @Unexpectedlysinglemum said.

Why not reply with. The majority can make the date I’ve suggested. I think by the time we find another date that everyone can do it could be a few months down the line so let’s stick with this plan and then you take up planning our next get together to make sure you can definitely make it and we get to see you