So long story short. I split up with ex a while ago and he had a new girlfriend immediately. He has always been thoroughly unpleasant which is why I left him and she seems to be just as bad but I’ve had no concerns with the treatment of the kids just towards me. I’ve got a detailed list of things that they’ve done since they were together such as recording me at pick ups and drop offs to intimidate me, fabricating complete lies, accusing me of neglect because my daughter had one small hole In The knee of her leggings (lol) refusing to pay child maintanance and dropping the kids at last minute.
a few months ago she rang me as they’d had a falling out and told me the house was dirty and she was doing the majority of the looking after of the kids and I was pleasant as I wanted to know what was going on. They obviously made up asap and I told him that the house needed to be in a fit state for the kids to go back and he needed to take on the parental responsibility. He assured me that he’s turned everything around and was improving and that was the condition of his girlfriend staying.
fast forward to about a month ago they’ve split with police involvement for fighting each other and she is gone for good. They are both accusing each other of all sorts and have had the police involved for communicating to each other harassing each other. I have told him that the kids will only come over if she is nowhere near and any concerns then it will stop until the courts. He sees then 2 nights a fortnight and he’s sent me photos of his house, which looks fine he’s had friends and family come over and help sort everything out etc.
yesterday she’s now messaged me a torrent of messages about how the house is dirty and he doesn’t do anything with the kids. She’s sent me photos of his house in a state which if I’d have seen at the time I wouldn’t have been happy. Mouldy plates etc. From what I gather these are the photos she took when she first phoned me up and it’s improved a trillion percent but I have messaged him and told him that I will need to come in and see before they next come over and he can just offer me a cup of tea just so I can have a peak and make sure it’s fine for the kids. He’s not happy about it but I insisted, but I told her I was not going to interact with her because she’s honestly nasty. She’s accused me of neglecting the kids because I’m not intervening and that she’s calling social services on the pair of us. I’ve been awake all night long and I’m so worried.