My husband and I are both health professionals. He loves preaching to people about his job and is actually quite arrogant and full of self importance (we met an old friend of his recently (who is a labourer) who commented on the amount of night shifts my husband does and my husband just said “it’s though at the top, old boy!” I cringed so much 😩)
He is 42 and has never properly smoked. I say “properly” because when he was a teenager he smoked weed every now and again but didn’t smoke regularly or daily or anything. And hasn’t touched weed for over 25 years.
We have been together over 13 years and he’s never ever smoked or vaped. No-one in our family smokes or vapes.
We have two little boys aged 6 and 8 who are quite switched on. Impressionable. As all kids this age are. They see kids on the street using vapes, see them in shops and ask what they are.
My issue is I am mad at my husband and think he is being such a massive child for starting to vape recently. His reason? “A few guys in my team do it and I like the smell.” So basically he is wanting to do it to fit in or because other people do it. He is a 42 year old man!
He seems to have been doing it kind of in secret (at work, when I go to bed at night so I kind of forgot to be honest. I only found out in the first place months ago because he had left it in his work trouser pocket and I was putting a wash on. We spoke about it and I assumed he had stopped). But I’ve came down this morning And he’s left one of those bright colourful vape things lying at the kitchen table where my kids could have seen it, picked it up, played with it, TRIED it if I hadn’t noticed. I am really annoyed! (And tempted to bin it!)
I would get it if he had been a smoker and was stopping and substituting it but he hasn’t been a smoker! Just a big massive child.
YABU - let the man vape!
YANBU - I would be annoyed too!