To want to move so quickly again?

[houseregret5]

So on paper, and from the outside looking in, I am in a very lucky situation. At the beginning of the year we bought a house in a desirable street in a lovely countryside village which we have lived in all our lives. Houses are like gold dust here because people don't tend to leave (the school is tiny and highly rated and the village is incredibly pretty and safe). We had known the house was due to become available for some time through word of mouth in the village and my DH and I agreed it would be the chance to secure a larger property than the one we were previously in. I almost became fixated on securing it due to being pregnant with our 3rd DC. At the time of the move, i was heavily pregnant and although we knew it was a bit of a project (elderly couple had lived in it for decades), I was excited to start a project on what I thought was our forever home.

To cut a long saga short, the work which transpired to be necessary was at least 10 times the work I had anticipated. The house needed a complete rewire, re plaster, new kitchen, bathrooms etc etc as well as major issues with trees, drainage, roof etc etc. What I thought would be a dream come true quickly became a nightmare and I can honestly say it ruined my pregnancy. The house was like a building site for months and months and was cold, dirty and completely drained our finances. Whilst we have made a lot of progress since the start of the year, and the house is certainly liveable, I have become completely consumed by worry and regret that I have made the wrong decision for my family and I have started to hate the house I thought we would live in forever. I can honestly say I doubt I could ever love the house now after the stress it has caused.

There are also issues which will take a long while to resolve due to us running out of money, such as double glazing failing (the house is pretty huge and replacing anything of this sort would be a huge sum of money). I should add that none of these things were flagged on the home survey. I have tried to adopt the mindset of 'these things take time' etc etc but it really isn't working. If anything, my feelings and regret towards the house and the decision I made are getting worse by the week. I just want to enjoy our lives and DCs now and to not have to worry about tradesmen and costs constantly.

I wonder if anyone has been in a similar position and made a decision to move again so quickly? Am I being an idiot? I just feel this house is way too much for us. I reckon we will have added enough value to sell it. AIBU to want to uproot my family again over this?

. At the beginning of the year we bought a house in a desirable street in a lovely countryside village which we have lived in all our lives. -

I don't get that? How long have you lived in it for?

@mumtoboys12 we have lived in the village all our lives.

I think you need to give it time. You've only been there for a few months and it sounds like you're in the midsts of it all right now Give it a year and a half at least; things could be very different by then.

Ahhh I see. That makes sense now it's a tricky one. But remember location location location- always buy the worst house in the best location. I reckon stick at it if you love the area! Xx

I have been in a very similar situation, twice in fact. In one case I got over it, but in the first I didn't and was glad to move. However, I think you need to give yourself at least a couple of years to settle and see. Moving now would probably be even more stressful.

Could you be arsed to moved again? Would you get another home in the village.
As others have said location x3

@NEmama see that's the thing; there's no way another house in the village would be available at the moment. The really frustrating thing is another was available at the time we bought this and we really should have bought it...

@houseregret5 I'd stay and soldier on if it's livable now. You've done the hard but.
Can you chase up surveyors regarding the windows? Were they under guarantee?

Well if you want to stay in the village and houses rarely come up for sale you don’t really have much option but stay where you are, and in all honesty houses do take time and a lot of money to renovate, particularly these days, I blame renovation shows where the owners have endless pots of cash to throw at projects, it gives people unrealistic expectations when they take on a house that needs work.

I think you need to give it time. You’re through the worst by the sounds of it. Also being pregnant can really heighten one’s emotions about this sort of thing as it’s part of nesting.