to want partner not to play toddler iPad at bedtime

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We have a 2.5 year old and as of the last few months alternate doing bedtime (I did them all prior). With me bedtime consists of stories, quiet music and cuddles. He likes to let her watch YouTube Kids on his iPad (Baby Annabel etc) in the dark in bed until she goes to sleep. I asked him not to and he said he had stopped doing it and just uses audio now. But I just went in to kiss her goodnight and found him sat in the corner using his phone while she lay in bed watching an iPad propped 3 inches in front of her face. AIBU to be angry.

YANBU. One, because I feel the same as you re watching an ipad to sleep but two, because you discussed it and had agreed that wasn’t going to happen anymore. He’s being a lazy arse.

Yeh I’d be annoyed- just remove the iPad.

I wouldn’t be annoyed about it unless it’s impacting on her ability to go to, or stay, asleep.

I’m pretty lax about screen time but really wouldn’t like this. Surely that must impact her ability to sleep? They need to learn to drift off independently. What’s her sleep pattern like overnight?

YANBU it’s unhealthy to have screen time before bed. He can read her a book or sing.

YANBU but does she settle to sleep on her own? If not, does it take him longer to get her to sleep than you? My DH struggles to get my LO to sleep (he’s 1), so I allow him a few shortcuts but I mostly do bedtimes to avoid this. TV downstairs is better for eyes than ipad if that is a compromise.

you are def NBU, I’d be furious. Everyone knows this is unhealthy for toddlers and will affect her sleep patterns. I feel your pain, the DH on his stupid phone in front of the kids is a main source of tension in our house, I’m sick of it and being gaslighted when I try to bring up the subject. I’m also furious for you because it’s sickening when you work so hard with your kids, to have standards and do things right and lazy arse husbands cut corners and tell you ‘it’s fine, it’s fine you need to chill out’ it makes me want to do the ‘in case of divorce’ sums.
When you’re not angry, can you sit down and explain why this is important to you and important for your child? Give clear instructions on what a great bedtime routine is? Or keep sending him research and articles about the risks to young children of screen time?