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Would you assume ghosted

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July19xx · 15/08/2023 13:46

dating a guy, he read my message and stopped replying. It has been 24 hours. Shall I assume I have been ghosted? I’m supposed to be seeing him this week but no proper plans made yet

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8lue8irds · 15/08/2023 14:01

What was the usual texting pattern like? Everybody is different but I would assume that after 24 hours nc he wasn't interested. Especially if you texted regularly.

zusje · 15/08/2023 14:04

What was the last message? Were you disagreeing about something or just normal conversation? If the latter and he doesnt have adamn good excuse (someone is in hospital dying or he was kidnapped) I'd just move on, ain't nobody got time for these games!

Caffeinatedhuman · 15/08/2023 14:10

I wouldn't bother chasing it up.

If you were planning on meeting so soon without proper plans and he's not replying it's a dead end in my opinion

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July19xx · 15/08/2023 14:18

Thank you. The last message was just normal conversation. He was also saying before that that we should go out for food one day this week but now I’m not sure

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Yellowpolkadot97 · 15/08/2023 15:47

I would just leave it now and not message him unless he messages you. I would have took it as a good sign if he was messaging you about going out for food but just wait and see if he gets back in touch to arrange it

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July19xx · 15/08/2023 17:03

Thanks everyone. Just feeling a bit down as I was looking forward to seeing him again.. now no contact

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Watchthedoormat · 15/08/2023 17:09

He mentioned going out for food this week and it's only Tuesday afternoon so I'd not say it's dead in the water just yet.
He is likely busy with other commitments and doesn't want to look too keen either.
Likely playing it cool.

Tandora · 15/08/2023 17:10

Was the last message you sent him a question or something that needed a reply?

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July19xx · 15/08/2023 17:24

@Tandora it didn’t really need a reply but if that happens he usually messages me back later in the day asking how my day has been etc but hasn’t this time

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Tandora · 15/08/2023 17:28

July19xx · 15/08/2023 17:24

@Tandora it didn’t really need a reply but if that happens he usually messages me back later in the day asking how my day has been etc but hasn’t this time

If it was something that didn’t need a reply I wouldn’t worry about 24 hours. He may just be busy and not in the mindset for texting all day everyday. Leave it for now and wait and see if he gets in touch about the next date 😊

teaorme · 15/08/2023 17:31

Nah I’d leave it another couple of days, anything might’ve happened

Hazel444 · 15/08/2023 18:19

It takes seconds to reply to a message, or just send an emoji. I think it is pretty rude to ignore the text for over 24 hours. If it's a new relationship you would think he would want to impress you!

Shurleyknot · 15/08/2023 18:39

HOw long have you been dating?

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July19xx · 15/08/2023 18:59

I didn’t message him but He has just sent me a message asking how I am doing

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Tandora · 15/08/2023 19:08

July19xx · 15/08/2023 18:59

I didn’t message him but He has just sent me a message asking how I am doing

❤️ there you go. Try not to overthink things OP. You need to take it easy in the early days. Just enjoy it and wait and see how it goes. Don’t overthink the time between every text

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