To expect a little sympathy for soldiering on?

[EffiePerine]

I have a nasty, streaming cold. DS has a nasty streaming cold as well, so despite taking a day off from work I have spent the whole time placating a tired and irritable toddler rather than staying in bed and consuming my own body weight in snacks . AIBU to expect DH to show a little sympathy, particularly as my being at home meant that he could go to an important meeting today?

To top it off, he is now out delivering leaflets for the local Tories

At least DS is now (more or less) asleep, so I can go to bed early but STILL

DH is better at sympathy now he has experienced taking care of the kids while under the weather - I don't think it crossed his mind before that it was tough!

If you don't get sympathy, just make a little mark in the treats logbook... and get a pedicure one day with a clear conscience

YANBU- Having just got over a nasty cold which both DS and DD got I have sympathy with you.
Hope you feel better soon

I don't think that men (well certainly the vast majority that I know) actually do sympathy well at all. Whenever I am ill, my DH is consumed with worry as to when he will come down with it! and will start complaining of symptoms almost as soon as I do in order to avoid having to be sympathetic towards me.

YANBU, I have had sinusitis for over 2 weeks and have 2 boys 3 and 7, the youngest being a little at the moment. I havent stopped doing all my 'chores', still dropping off at school and picking up, making meals and going to work myself a couple of times a week. Partner hasnt lifted a finger as usual, only moaned and my sneezing and coughing and congestion noises wake him up!!!!SELFISH!!!!!!

I am finding the leafleting especially galling

That's what you get for marrying a Tory

OK you win Shatteredmum, as I only have the one and DS does his fair share of childcare during the week . Sinusitis sounds horribly painful. I am bad enough with normal colds

Still feeling sorry for myself tho

YANBU effie. There there, you poor thing! (does that help?) My dh is crap when I am ill too.

I DID NOT MARRY A TORY

he has recently changed his political allegiance. I am a woolly liberal and find it all a bit odd

grounds for divorce IMO

sorry about your rotten cold

YABU its a cold, get on with it.

When you get man flu you'll really know about it .

beans?

Does that mean hit?

So you're well enough to hit me eh?

I am MNing so obv not at death's door, just whinging

www.thefreedictionary.com/bean

no baseball to hand

Women never get ill. We are always healthy and capable of looking after others.

Just ask my DH

I can be sitting at work, eyes streaming, sliding down my chair and seeing double, coughing on my keyboard and manager will walk past and go {in caveman tones} "what's up with you?"

But when he's ill....oooohhhh. A pharmacy type selection of wonderous drugs perched on his desk..bottles and bottles of stuff. {cough} {cough} {rasp}.

Men!

Ha, Chipkid, totally identify with H saying he has symptoms as soon as you do.

I've given up mentioning any Illness, ever, because he always comes back with 'Oh yes, I've got a sore throat / headache / tummy bug too' - God forbid that he should cease to be the centre of attention for five minutes - fecking infant, drives me nuts.

lol

no yanbu

if dp ever becomes a tory he will find his bags out on the street

I once rang up my DH at work to ask him to come home to look after our children as i was ill with gastroenteritis, i was projectile vomiting and trying to look after a breastfed 9month old DD and a boisterous 2 year old DS. When he came home he said 'oh I don't feel great I need to go to bed!' and off he went.

My Dad always does that thing of getting symptoms as soon as anyone else comes down with an illness. The best time was when my sister was complaining about how tired and nauseous she felt. My Dad came out with 'Oh yes, I think I'm coming down with that as well'. We all had to remind him that she was pregnant, so it was unlikely that he had the same thing