To feel like a bad mum…

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Slumberland1 · 15/08/2023 08:49

I feel like such a bad mum. I’ve made so many mistakes since having my children.

I do do things that I know are good. I cuddle them, read with them, tell them I love them every day, but overall I just feel like a let down.

Many years ago, I had friends over and got quite drunk whilst my then 1 year old was in bed asleep. Nothing happened but imagine if she had become unwell and id needed to take her to hospital or something. I did this on a few occasions over the years and didn’t really think too much about it afterwards, but now the guilt is really eating me up.

That 1 year old is now 9 and I was quite a young mum so back then, I didn’t think about risks the way I do now. I now have another child and I just feel like after being so irresponsible, i am not deserving of the lovely children I have.

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Slumberland1 · 15/08/2023 09:05

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WhatToDo82 · 15/08/2023 09:11

Every mother in my opinion will question their parenting (if they’re a good parent). The fact you are remorseful for doing something irresponsible and would never do that again shows that you’re a good mum who is trying to do better. Don’t be too hard on yourself and as long as we recognise our mistakes and try not to make them again, and just try to do the best we can for our kids we will be okay - nothing bad happened as you’ve said so I think it’s time you forgive yourself.

WhiskersPete · 15/08/2023 09:16

I think you need to give yourself a break, OP. It's not that bad. You sound a bit down. Could you be depressed?

Sprogonthetyne · 15/08/2023 09:17

You got drunk while your child was asleep and unaware, 8 years ago. I really think it's time you forgave yourself.

SallyWD · 15/08/2023 09:18

Please forgive yourself. I'd say we've nearly all done it. Everything's fine. You need to move on from this.

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Slumberland1 · 15/08/2023 09:29

Thanks all. It’s been on my mind a lot lately. I feel like I’ve failed them. I have been down lately but for reasons similar to this, so I feel like I deserve to feel down, if that makes sense. I never really considered that I might be depressed.

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MatildaTheCat · 15/08/2023 09:34

Ruminating on incidents that happened years ago that could, but didn’t, end in harm isn’t healthy. Are you feeling low about other things as well OP?

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