The "Well-being" rep is in on it,

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AIBU to ask the wise of Mumsnet, WWYD to get the very best outcome for me in this situation?

Cut a long story short I started a job and have
had a horrific time pretty much since the beginning.

-Witholding of training and information to do the job successfully.

-Threatened by my line manager, that complaints about her will be dealt with outside work differently to how it's dealt with inside.

-Culture of overt sexism, racism, ageism and sexual harassment, ableism and that's from the women not the men. Bullying and ill-treatment by clique colleagues and managers. Threatened by colleague and daily harassment.

-Well-being rep sent my confidential email around. (I have evidence). After reading reviews on a job website, this is done intentionally.

-Evidence from former employees that HR will go after you if you raise a grievance. Seems to be no point in complaining.

I have become mentally-ill since working there and cannot face going back after my 2 week holiday. I feel like I need to go to the doctors.

I just want to know if there are any clever ways that I don't lose out entirely? Could I ask for a settlement to leave for example? I have also not been able to find another job and this workplace delights in making things difficult for past employees. You can hear HR and recruitment gleefully talking about it from the open plan office.

The injustice gets to me. Am I going to just have to leave with no job to go to?

Have you raised a formal grievance?

No,I told the Well/being two my grievances and I was subsequently issued the veiled threat from the manager after the email was sent around.

I don't think there is any point as everyone I have seen who has raised a grievance has been sacked on performance or bullied more.

I worked somewhere like this. Following dozens of spurious disciplinaries and the occasional complaint about my manager's seriously abusive behaviour, I asked to see my HR file. It was one sheet of paper.

Things only changed after a buyout, when senior management was replaced. I then supported a colleague's complaint about the same boss and he was let go. My mental health was totally fucked by then; I was included in a large swathe of redundancies and got some psych care on the corporate insurance.

My advice is to leave while you're still sane & healthy enough to get another job! I really hate letting bullies get away with it and am glad mine didn't - but, for my own sake, I should have left much sooner.

It's not you. Put yourself first

Start looking for another job.

If you've only just started there, then no need to list this position on your CV. So the sooner you get out the better. If you're thinking about getting signed off use that time for job-hunting.

Can you find something temporary just to tide you over ? Some jobs are temporary to permanent or covering maternity leave . You need to get out it’s making you ill especially if you feel no point in making a complaint.
look on recruiting websites today and makd plans to hand notice in if you’ve not been there long don’t need to put on cv .

It depends how you want to play it OP. If it's self preservation then honestly look for a new job.

I was fired for being pregnant and took them to tribunal. It was a shitty road as they had form for it but I won.

Fight or flight is totally your choice, either way make sure you have support and are looking after yourself.

Sorry I forgot to add...if you want to fight get legal advice.

Wowzers, sounds ghastly!

What’s your financial situation? I think in your shoes I’d just leave and scrub it from your CV. Put down ‘career break’ and list your old employer as a referee.

It's like you say @GarlicGrace, it is so annoying that these bullies kind of win. I have been there a bit too long to scrub it from my CV.
In a way though,

A new colleague confided in me that she was being bullied and as usual it is a line manager and her clique.

An old colleague left after discrimination and although she tried to sue them, they are calling her bluff and intimating that they will take it all the way to a tribunal.

Can the sack me if I get a doctors note to job hunt? The harassment has become untenable and I have no one that will be willing to be a witness.